Bad attitude from my 6 yr old is breaking me

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bunnyone Fri 05-Jul-19 09:42:56

I can’t believe I’m the only one who has to deal with this but I certainly feel like I’m the only one amongst my friends.
My six-year-old is nearly 7 and her angry emotional outbursts are becoming worse. The thing I find so hard to deal with is how rude she is to me: the backchat, the rude words (she thinks they’re really rude but they are just minor words, but still, she’s trying to hurt me), her snarling face - and regularly telling me she doesn’t care about me anymore sometimes she says she hates me.

I’ve tried reward charts like her four-year-old brother has, but she just gets upset when she says he’s got more stickers than her. And it doesn’t change her behaviour. She is often very sorry an hour or two later but it happens again the next day.
I guess the main problem is I can’t stay calm any more I am at my wits end and there is nothing that I can take away from her that she cares about. I’ve banned her from sweets, television, parties.... she just says she doesn’t care anyway.

Half the time she’s lovely the other half I wonder what I’ve done to create such a vicious child.

There is a chance she might have ADHD but it’s not been diagnosed we have just started the process.

I just want a happy family life 😥😥

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bunnyone Sat 13-Jul-19 10:54:43

Guess I am alone then!!

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Bethyo Sat 13-Jul-19 22:10:26

I have no words of wisdom, but just want you to know you are not alone. I'm going through almost the exact same situation with my 6 year old son and I too am at absolute breaking point.
I've been in tears so many times today and just feel like I'm a terrible mum. Hopefully we will find a way through this and come out stronger xx

bunnyone Sun 14-Jul-19 07:38:46

Thank you for replying!
I just don’t know what to do - it’s so hard. I hope we both get through this horrendous phase soon xx

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Sorryandstressed Sun 28-Jul-19 18:42:10

We're going through it too. 7 year old DD is vicious. Lies, screams and is generally obnoxious. Nothing is ever good enough for her, but she's positively angelic at school and at the grandparents.

Can't offer advice, just wine

bunnyone Tue 30-Jul-19 16:39:41

Sorry to hear that :-(
Who knew parenting would be this hard. I often look at my friends who seem so happy and are genuinely enjoying their kids company. I have days when I just want to run away.

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PotteringAlong Wed 31-Jul-19 19:17:51

I don’t know the answer. I’m taking my 7 year old to the dr’s tomorrow because I’ve seen this behaviour from him before and having grommets fitted basically stopped it overnight.

It’s not all day, it’s not that long, but for the last few weeks we’ve had at least one angry outburst a day and he can be vicious when he’s angry. He’s fine at school.

I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, I don’t know how to fix it. I would quite like to give all 3 of my children away at the minute. I miss DH. We’re in the constant throws of parenting small children and never seem to have any time.

I’m hoping his hearing is really bad again because if it isn’t then it’s just our parenting and I don’t know what to do.

Sorryandstressed Thu 01-Aug-19 21:03:45

One of those days in my house! Could happily sell all of them. Theyve fought constantly from 5.30 am!

Spent all day out doing fun activities and 7 yo dd has been miserable all day hmm

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