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Newmum26 Sat 11-May-19 23:09:22

DS is 2 a few days ago and for the last two weeks has started having tantrums over things he can't have 😩 He says 'I want it' and if I say oh no you can't have that he just throws himself on the floor going Waaaah and having a right paddy about it 🤦🏻‍♀️
Does grid phase pass and how is best to deal with it?
Thank you ☺️

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AladdinMum Mon 13-May-19 09:41:27

There are two types of tantrums, dictator tantrums and distress tantrums. In a dictator tantrum, the child is making demands, they may be screaming but there are no real tears here. In a distress tantrum the child is emotionally distraught. This can be over something trivial, like you ran out of their favorite cereal, but the distress they experience is very real. Their nervous system is still immature and the emotion is so strong that they cannot calm themselves down.

For dictator tantrums you ignore, that means you completely ignore the behavior, no explaining, no comforting, no reasoning with them. For distress tantrums you comfort. It can take some practice to distinguish between the two and you have to watch out because sometimes a tantrum that starts off as dictator can become a distress tantrum. If you approach tantrums this way, they will occur less often. The child learns that dictator tantrums won't get them what they want and they know they can count on you to help them when they are experiencing distress. If you're giving in to any dictator tantrums, they are going to get worse.

MummyBear2352 Mon 13-May-19 10:42:13

Terrible twos!

They do pass (eventually lol).

Either ignore him or distract him.

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