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Sexual behaviour in an almost 6yr old boy?

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Ripeberry Tue 17-Jul-07 13:50:41

Hi, my dd1 is almost a year younger than her best friend who is the boy in question and in the last couple of weeks he has been getting "sexual" all of a sudden.
Earlier in the week he was trying to show my DD2 his willy and yesterday he went out to play with my DD1 and lay on top of her trying to "snog" her.
This is very strange behaviour for him as i've known him since he was 1yr old and he only lives 3 doors away, but the incident yesterday made my DD1 frightened of him and i don't want him near my DD2 who is only 2yrs old.
How should i confront him?, do i tell his mum? or do i just tell him myself that its inapropriate behaviour.
They just seem too young for this, just hope that he has only got this idea from his teenage brother and that it's not anything more sinister.
Any experience?
AB

allgonebellyup Tue 17-Jul-07 13:52:18

sounds pretty normal to me, im afraid

boys are always showing their willies to my dd, but she delights in such play..

satine Tue 17-Jul-07 13:55:05

My ds used to play 'the willy game' with a female friend when they were both 3 - 4, which basically involved showing each other their 'parts'. I've explained to my ds that our genitals are private, and we shouldn't go around showing them to people, but it's hard to know how big a deal to make of this type of behaviour. I can absolutely see why you are concerned, but I'd say that it's probably pretty innocent - but I'd be interested to see what others have to say.

satine Tue 17-Jul-07 13:56:42

PMSL Bellyup

BocoBeak Tue 17-Jul-07 14:00:01

Hmm, when i started primary school i escorted a boy into the toilets and asked to see his penis. I was surprised by how small it was, and announced it at dinner time to my parents, who were a bit worried. I think it's pretty normal, he might need a bit of guidance about appropriate play, especially if your dd was scared, but i don't think it needs to be made into a big thing - just a quiet word with him maybe.

krispie Tue 17-Jul-07 14:27:39

my dss used to want to play the 'nakey nakey game with me' when he was about 6 (wanted to get into bed together naked.)
He would start stripping his clothes off and try and drag me by the arm upstairs. It was also obvious that he was physically excited
dh used to think it was funny but i was petrified that he would go home and tell his mum 'me and my stepmum played the nakey nakey game!'

I spoke about it with friends who all said that their boys became sexually aware to varying degrees at that age. I would say it's totally normal but I would mention it to his mum so she can deal with it in her own way.

dss is 10 now and would be MORTIFIED if i told him that story!!!!

slinkyjo Tue 17-Jul-07 14:33:01

lmao god i remember when i was a kid n a mate used to like showing me his willy he was 6 n i was 8 i remember thinking omg lol so i think its normal for children to be curious in natural behavior

summerunderakaftan Tue 17-Jul-07 15:31:48

It is quite common at this age TBH. It is not that it is sexual as such only to us as adults. He has no idea what it is just that he has started getting "feelings" and he is discovering that some things cause those feelings.

I wouldn't be concerned about him being around your dd's as I would imagine that the youngest especially is within close supervision when she is playing anyway.

He is not a horrible sexual deviant just a little boy who likely has no idea what sex actually is just that his body does some things that feel nice. HE is also exploring what girls look like because they are different.

Like someone else said a word on appropriate times to do theses thigns wouldn't go amiss but that is not really your place to be having that chat it is his own parents. Maybe approach them and explain what happened and that it really isn't a big deal but maybe they should explain to him that these feelings are better placed in the privacy of his bedroom. L

harpsichordcuddler Tue 17-Jul-07 15:35:50

god, massively normal and appropriate I would say
I help out at a preschool and just last week I witnessed a bit of "snogging" and rolling about under the climbing frame
when I was a child we used to play mummies and daddies and doctors and nurses. It is just exploratory play. please don't make a big deal of it, just a bit of gentle light hearted discouragement

KITTENSOCKS Wed 18-Jul-07 10:27:00

I don't think this little boy sounds bad, but as your DD was frightened by his behaviour perhaps avoiding them playing alone together or even not playing together for a while may result in the game being forgotten, or the boy may lose interest in this way of playing. Your DD has every right to tell her friend "I dont want to play this with you, if you don't stop, I won't play with you at all".
Only if he persists would I have a word with his mum as by then it's on the verge of bullying.

tiredemma Wed 18-Jul-07 10:30:41

Normal 6 yr old behaviour, my ds1 quite often behaves the same.

he was looking at the heart in one of my textbooks the other night and found it fascinating- whe I said "do you want to look at the lungs aswell" he relied "no- But I will look at the willy and id also like to look at how a baby is made"

binkleandflip Wed 18-Jul-07 10:39:38

lol tired emma - your ds looking at your textbook has made me laugh, because I do beauty therapy and my dd (5) reads my textbook in the car and now she is desperate to have a go at waxing my legs!! that is so not going to happen

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