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Bedwetting

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VickyLouise · 12/07/2007 16:43

Hi,
My DS is now 12 years old and is still regularly wetting the bed (approx 2 nights per week). I've been trying to be really patient with it and have tried DryNites (which are really good), bedsheets and even tried nothing at all but it just dosn't seem to be getting any easier. Does anyone have any suggestions about what I can do to make it easier for him?

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cylonbabe · 12/07/2007 17:23

please please please tell me this wont be me in six years time.
please...............

sorry that's a bit useless.
get him referred by your gp. find out if there is an underliying medical reason. ds is 6 and has never had a dry night. i have been told that they dont consder it a problem till 7. its to do with production of s erotonin in the breain. but at 12, they should be treating him.
from what ive read, it can continue into their teens, and sometimes they simply just have to grow out of it. no help really, but take him to the doctors.

WigWamBam · 12/07/2007 17:24

Have you seen the GP? A referral to an enuresis clinic might help - there are a number of ways of tackling the problem, and they will be able to find the right one for him.

You might find some help at ERIC as well - they have downloadable leaflets and other information.

Bounder · 12/07/2007 17:57

Definitely eneuresis clinic - usually run by school nurse but GP can point you in the right direction. He might well respond to an alarm at his age.
I know how you feel Cylonbabe, my eldest DS is still wet almost every night at 9.3. were having a rest from the alarm, I concluded that he is just not ready. <br /> Im comforted by the nurse`s observation that every year a few of them just grow up and get dry.

lillypie · 12/07/2007 18:22

Hi VL I just wanted to offer some support.I too had a bedwetter and nothing we tried made any difference.It was terribly frustrating for me and pretty awful for him too,especially as he got older.Then at 13 he just suddenly stopped.

MrsSpoon · 12/07/2007 18:28

Definitely get a referral to the Enurisis Clinic. My DS1, aged 8, was referred about 8 months ago, he was given a bedwetting alarm which I was a little sceptical about but it has worked wonders.

WendyWeber · 12/07/2007 18:34

Has he ever been reliably dry?

Bounder · 12/07/2007 18:55

Yikes lillypie!
I can see that happening to us..Im surprised my washing machine has lasted this long. My DS3 (aged 5)not fully reliable either. I do feel sorry for DS1 as hes very self conscious about it now, avoids sleep overs which DS2 (7) does lots of.

Theresa · 12/07/2007 18:55

My nephew is 11 and still wet regularly. alarms are no good as they wake everyone but him. Has had periods over the last 2 or 3 years on soemthing called something like 'desmopresson' (thats prob totally wrong!) has had tabelts to take before bed and also nasal spray. these tend to work for a while and then seem to stop (as he gets used to it?) so then he stops taking anything and he's wet virtually every night, then he takes them again for a while (sometimes to co-ordinate with schol trip or sleepover?) and it works for a while. His bladder does seem to be incredible as he's slept at ours and gone to the loo at bed time (say 10.00), my dh has got him up at about 1.30 when he's gone to bed, he's had another huge wee, then he gets up at 5.00 and he's soaking! Maybe not much help, but comforting to know you're really not alone!

lou33 · 12/07/2007 18:59

dd1 is 15 and has never been dry

we tried everything and it didfnt work, until finally again about a year ago we tried her on desmopressin once again

this time it seems to work, but if she forgets to take them or runs out she is wet again

she hates it

Theresa · 12/07/2007 19:10

That's so awful, poor girl, you'd like to think by that age it'd be sorted. Our nephew stays about once a month and we console ourselves that it's not something we have to deal with any more regularly than that. i really sympathise with you all

lillypie · 12/07/2007 19:10

Well the good news is that once he stopped he stopped.He's now 24 and I'm sure he'd really love the fact that I'm sharing this with all of you

Theresa · 12/07/2007 19:17

LOL at that lillypie!

lou33 · 12/07/2007 19:29

lol

cylonbabe · 12/07/2007 20:11

o god lou.
how awful for her.

there MUST be something the doctors can do for her?

lou33 · 12/07/2007 20:18

we have seen loads of specialists, they all say we just have to keep persevering and wait for her bladder to mature

cylonbabe · 12/07/2007 20:21

lou, i really really really admire you.
with all the problems life has thrown at you, you are still a tower of strentgh.
hats off.

lou33 · 12/07/2007 20:24

not sure i know what you mean but i will accept the compliment

Judy1234 · 12/07/2007 20:26

It's quite common. With our son we were referred to the local NHS bed wetting clinic. They tried a nasal spray and then a bed alarm which did work. They won't let you go until the child is 6 or 7 I think because usually by then they naturally stop bed wetting as most of ours did. It's also partly genetic - their father and I both wet the bed. But in our famly all were dry by about 6 or 7.

Judy1234 · 12/07/2007 20:27

ALthough having said that for the first time in 12 months one of the 8 year olds wet the bed last night actually.

cylonbabe · 12/07/2007 21:36

ds1 aged 10 has recently wet the bed a few times. i'm not sure why, but havent really made a fuss as i dont think it would help, plus i'm used to dealing with wet beds!

lou, bit of a thread hijack here, but i have 'known' you ever since mnetters were frantically trying to find you in the aftermath of the tsunami. just havent had an argy bargy with you. i used to be stitch

Bounder · 12/07/2007 21:51

If it`s started again after a long period of dryness worth checking for urine infection (usually girls) and also diabetes (would be thirsty and passing alot of urine in daytime too)

Bounder · 12/07/2007 21:51

But most won`t have either of those.

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sparklygothkat · 12/07/2007 21:53

dd2 still wets the bed, she is 5. Funny that the 2 with Cerebral palsy have been dry since they were 4, but dd2 is stilll struggling. We make sure she goes to the toilet before bed, and I know she gets up in the night. But we still have a wet bed about once a week. Should I ask to be referred to a doctor or will she outgrow it?

cylonbabe · 12/07/2007 21:59

bounder those suggestions are scary!

sparkle, at five they wont refer. i know, my hv tried about six months ago, whends2 was 5.6 and it was returned

Jas · 12/07/2007 22:04

Definitely inherited.
Both my dds have occasional accidents (6 and 8, although very rare for the older one now)
DP wet the bed until he was 17 and is "unpredictable" now if very drunk, but otherwise ok.

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