Hi, I was wondering if anyone has any advice on how to deal with an anxious 8 year old?
My Dd has always been on the anxious side, but in the last couple of months it has got a lot worse. She won’t be left in a room alone- she follows me everywhere. Doors aren’t allowed to be closed either. At home, or even out and about. When in the car, she will only close her door when I’m in the car and she gets panicky if the child lock is on. In public loos she won’t allow the door to be locked- I have to hold the door half open. In the evenings when she’s in bed, I can’t go downstairs. If I do, she sits on her bed waiting for me to go come back up. She takes a while to go to sleep, so I’ve given up trying to have an evening downstairs, I just go to bed at the same time as her.
She also wakes quite a few times in the night. Until a couple of months ago she generally slept through most nights.
I’ve tried talking to her, she says she’s worried the wind will blow the door and she’ll be locked in. Or she’ll be superglued in. She sometimes won’t talk- says talking about it will upset her more.
I did accidentally lock her in the car for about 5 seconds back in February (i thought she’d already got out). If this has caused this, how can I undo it?
Her general behaviour isn’t great at the moment either. She can be very shouty and rude when something doesn’t go her way.
I have 2 younger children and I’m finding it hard to look after them whilst also trying to keep my Dd calm. Any advice pls?
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ThisOneNoThatOne · 27/03/2019 21:05
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