From the age of 2 my son has wanted to be a girl ( now 7). He'd always want to wear nighties to bed and girls clothes, he'd even wear princess dresses to nursery and play with dolls which I was ok with at that age. Over the years he's become more and more obsessed with wanting to be a girl, his fascination in women's clothing and styles are something else he's so creative. A few years ago we tried to get him out of it, we put a lock on my wardrobe and my eldest daughters wardrobe because he was constantly in them raiding through our clothes, but this didn't stop him. Here's where the creative part comes in.. with the locks on the wardrobes he thought of other ways to dress up he'd get a pair of shorts and put both legs through one hole and tucked the other in so it looked like a skirt, he would then get a T-shirt and put one arm through then tuck the other in to make it off shoulder top and for the hair he would use pyjama bottoms he'd put his head through the waist bit so the legs would dangle down, or roll them up and tie them with hair bands so to have buns. He talks like a girl and walks like one, he finds it hard interacting with other children when out and about especially in school. He's always stuck to the same girl friends he's had since nursery I think this may be because he's not comfortable with who he is?? I don't know! As soon as he gets home from school uniform is straight off ( which takes an hour to convince him to put on in the morning because he doesn't like wearing trousers or shirts ) then straight in to an outfit that he's come up with then on goes the hair ( pyjama bottoms or a top ). When he goes round his friends houses to play he'll even strip there and put on one of their dresses and visa versa when his friends come here he's straight in to "Britney". My mum thinks it's hilarious as do most of the family which I get but the things he says to me really upsets me he once looked at me with tears in his eyes and said it's my fault I made him a boy when I should have made him a girl and that he's been born the wrong baby. I know kids say things all the time but that upset me and began thinking it's not a phase that he's going through. We've even been down the whole route of him being upset because he wants to get pregnant when he's older as in carrying the baby which I've said it's not possible he was devastated by this. His nan ( my mum ) said to him a few weeks ago to become a girl he would need his willy chopped off. I don't think she realises the extent of his wish to be a girl she kind of just shrugs it off as if he's just playing around. A few nights a go I caught him in the bathroom about to take a pair of scissors to his willy. I genuinely feel like I'm alone in this his dad only sees him on a Sunday for a few hours or sometimes has him Saturday through to Sunday, he's always had a go at me as if I encourage him to be girly, that is not the case at all I've tried so hard but I can't force him to want to play with boys toys or even act like one. His dads girlfriend has had to have a talk with him on my behalf that our son is who he is and it's not fair for him to hide the fact that he wants to dress up as a girl when he is around them too. But I can't tell him the extent our son wants to go to because he would not understand and place all the blame on me. My friend is getting married next week and he has his heart set on wearing a dress, he's never worn one in public before. Im not sure how I feel about it because if I let him then he'll want to start wearing dresses to school too. I'm going to make a doctors appointment for this week and see if there's any help in what to do for the best. Could this be a phase or is he seriously wanting to transition? I'll love him either way but I'm worried that other people and children will laugh and make fun of him I don't want that for him because he is so sensitive and finds it hard making friends as it is. I just don't know what to do?
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