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4 year old worsening behaviour:(

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user1495827045 Sat 26-Jan-19 19:57:54

Since returning to school after the Christmas holidays our 4 year old son behaviour has progressively got worse at home. First week back was fine but this weekend has been a write off again as we have to keep repeating ourselves as he will not listen- he won't take no for an answer. He hit by husband today when he told him something he didn't like and he has started having tantrums again like he is a toddler!! It is so embarrassing as he has done it picking up at school gates and in public today. We have 're introduced a star chart for good behaviour today in the hope this will encourage good behaviour again at home. Just to add his sleeping is also suffering - he will go to bed on time but is waking ridiculously early (5am!!) We have tried to play around with bedtimes but this doesn't seem to make a difference. Is this behaviour we are experiencing normal? It is making me frustrated and anxious especially when the teacher tells me he is behaving at school! Any help?? Or maybe just reassurance!!

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Homegoal Sat 26-Jan-19 22:56:45

We are experiencing exactly the same after the Christmas holiday period. Our 3 year old is argumentative, shouting, stumping his feet and hitting me. I have tried the naughty step and talking to no avail! I have purchased a star chart to try so hoping it works, one of my friends is going through the same with her son so there must be something in the water hmm

MumUnderTheMoon Sun 27-Jan-19 21:50:40

It could just be that winter days are longer and it's making him a bit grumpy. My 11 year old is so lethargic and grumpy and hard to get out of bed since going back to school. I recon things might pick up once the days start to get longer.

BlueChampagne Mon 28-Jan-19 13:28:53

Christmas is not a restful holiday ... then it's straight back to school. It sounds like He is doing his best to behave at school and you get the exhausted child at the end of the day. Reward system sounds like a good way to go - good luck !

Goldmandra Mon 28-Jan-19 18:15:56

He sounds stressed and like school is quite a challenge for him. try to think of the episodes as meltdowns, rather than tantrums unless they are simply about getting something he wants and switch off as soon as he gets it.

Meltdowns can be triggered by not getting something you want but that can just be the trigger and the meltdown can be about exhaustion, overload and not coping. Try to identify patterns and triggers.

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