Hi all,
Hoping some wise MNers can help.
I have 2 children. A DD 2years 10months and a DS 10months.
Both are/have been very clingy babies, both do not sleep through. We’ve fought hard and now DD wakes 1/2 a night but DS wakes every 2/3 hours.
However over the last year we’ve had some behaviour issues with DD. She is about 60% of the time so funny, sweet and quite bright. But the other 40% is TERRIBLE. I’m starting to dredge socialising for fear of her playing up. My DH thinks it’s in my head but I definitely feel a coolness now coming from some mum friends. Actually one (who lives very close by and who I thought of as a good friend) told me when I commented that I’ve not seen her in ages that her son (and I’m guessing by extension her) just didn’t want to see my DD.
Some examples
Yesterday our friends messages saying they were out if we were about as their DD (our DD little BFF) was asking for our DD. She was so excited to see her friend, they ran towards each other to hug and bumped her finger that had a small cut from earlier. Cue crying, calling her bad which resulted in a tearful sad apology hug to her little friend.
Then she tripped over her scooter and hurt her face. The girls decided it was time to play inside. So in we went and it was cute for about 5 minutes then there was fighting over toys. She wanted the bowl the other girl had for grapes (in all fairness it was a pretty cool bowl) she did wait until her friend was finished and switched her grapes from the plain bowl to the whale shaped one. After awhile we went over to ours as my DD got a small bouncey castle from her uncle and was so excited to show her friend. But as soon as it was up she was crying thy she didn’t want her on. Then there was a bit of pushing which resulted in a naughty step time out, then fighting over her toys. Her friend was so good and 90% just moved on to the next thing.
She’s really bad at taking toys off her brother and 90% of the time causes a huge meltdown when told to give it back.
She’s also started being really dramatic and throwing herself down on the ground and takes the smallest bumped or thing to heart and either gets really upset over it or angry.
We do tell her off and give her time outs. But her bad behaviour seems to be getting worse not better and it’s exhausting. She’s good at saying sorry and “I’ll no do it again”. But it happens again and again.
She goes to playgroup 3 days a week, a music movement class and a gymnastic class. We usually try to do something once a day.
I have to admit I am bad for saying yes to things like when we’re out and she asks for cake at soft play or a toy, ice cream. I am making more of a conscious effort to say no as I don’t want to raise spoiled children.
I’m just wondering if anyone has some advice or recommendations for books?
She is at heart a lovely funny girl who wants to play but I feel gets overwhelmed and acts out especially with other children her ages (older kids she’s great with). I can already feel her being judged as “that kid” and I don’t want that to stick to her.
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Mamawingingit1234 · 29/12/2018 20:51
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