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Grumpy 4 month old(6 Posts)
I know I must be the worst mother in the world saying this, but I just need to rant. My 4 month old daughter is making me miserable. She craves attention all of the time and usually I'd be happy to sit and cuddle her but I also have a 2 year old who needs attention too so it's not always possible. She is such a grumpy baby, she cries all of the time because she's over-tired (she doesn't sleep for more than 2 hours from when she wakes up in the morning to when she goes to bed).
My partner goes to work at 2pm and doesn't come home until midnight so it's pretty much just me dealing with her. And in turn I'm grumpy with him because I'm so stressed all of the time and I resent that he doesn't have to listen to her cry all day.
I love her to bits and I know she'll grow out of it eventually but at the minute it's just so damn hard.
I felt the same when my son was around that age. As a result my husband and I argued a lot because I was always angry and tired oh and lack of sleep. It's so hard. Some days I questioned if i was fit to be s mom. My son was also very grumpy and needy. Needed me 24/7. But it gets better. Hang in there xx
If she’s not sleeping much in the day, have you tried the No Cry Nap Solution?
Have you got a sling too? My DD wanted to be help a lot and having a sling let me get on with some other stuff and kept her happy.
I would try and work on the day naps as much as you can. Overtired babies are such hard work. My first needed lots of help with sleep and it was exhausting and really sucked the joy out of everything but it did eventually settle into a good nap routine and things improved.
What happens at the moment with sleep?
Thanks for your replies. Since I posted things have been a lot better. She's been prescribed Gaviscon (she's a very sicky baby) which seems to help with the constant crying she was doing and I've recently discovered that swaddling is a miracle! She is currently on her third nap today - hurrah! She's even fallen asleep by herself a couple of times when she's swaddled. Hopefully she carries on like this. Although my only worry now is because she's napping in the day, she'll start waking in the night! Can't have it both ways I suppose
Oh that’s good. I always found with mine that if they napped well, they slep better at night so fingers crossed