Supper times/bed times in your family(22 Posts)
Snack after school then proper dinner around 5. Snack - maybe cereal about 7ish then bed shortly after 8. My 3dc are all under 8.
I stick to what works
My ds (4.5) has a snack when he gets home, supper around 5. Goes to bed around 7/7.30 but always wants to stay up.
snack after school 3.30, dinner at 5 then bed at 7-7.30. Sometime a snack before bed (toast/cereal). Mine are 5 and 3.
DD is 5yo and in reception year at school.
On a school day, if coming home with no play date, we will all eat together as a fmaily at 6:30pm, when DH gets home. She will have a small snack - fruit, veg sticks, rice cakes, cereal bar, toast, etc. at 4pm, when inf rom school.
If she has a friend round or goes to a friends, they tend to eat between 5 and 5:30pm. DD will sometimes snack again at 6:30pm when Dh and me eat later.
DD then goes to bed at 7:30pm on a school date.
All this goes out of the window at weekends/holidays where we follow no routine and bedtimes are often later, sometimes much later.
Ds is 2.5 and has his dinner at around 4.30pm. dh and I don't always eat with him during the week (mainly at weekends), we eat when he is in bed!
I do eat lunch with ds at the table every day and this can sometimes be a cooked meal depending on how tired ds is and if I have been working!
Bedtime can differ from 6pm to 8pm depending on if he has napped during the day and if it is a week day. Certainly no later than 8pm at weekends.
I remember having a 9pm bedtime at around 12 years old, so 9.30pm for a 10 year old seems reasonable to me!
snack after school (biscuits) on way to activities (most nights!) then tea anywhere between 4.45 and 6.15 depending on night (we eat with the kids usually unless they are eating before 5.15). They always want another snack of fruit plus bisccuit or milkshake at about 7-7.30. DD (age 6) goes to bed at 7.30 but often plays in her room (after her story) if she's not that tired and goes to sleep about 8-8.30. Ds (aged 9) usually goes up to bed at 8.30 but often reads till 9-9.30. He doesn't seem to need much sleep!
DD and DS 4.5 and almost 3, dinner at 5, bath at 6, snack after bath and bed at 7-7.30pm.
13 yr old at 10pm and 11 yr old at 9.15 (although it was 9 until last week). Neither have ever complained about their bedtimes and both get up without assistance for school. All dcs are different though, my youngest can't cope past 9.15-9.30 but the eldest can carry on into the wee small hours with no ill effects at all (not that we allow it very often at all). Do what feels right for you and if they oversleep then put their times back!
I give them a proper dinner at 4.30 - 5 when they're going to their Dads or if partner will be home early we eat together at 6ish. They then have a pudding/ supper/ snack at about 7.
We're at the other end of the scale then
On schooldays mine (9, 7 and nearly 1) don't have their after-school snack until 4.30/5pm because here (France) school ends at 4.30! Dinner is at about 7pm, then they go up to bed at 8ish, lights out at 8.30/8.45. (Obviously baby has a different routine!)
They do have a proper 3-course lunch at school though, so I tend to give them a light meal in the evening.
Mine are 7 and 4.
They have a snack about 3.30 and then we usually eat between 5.30 and 6.00. We all eat together if we are all at home.
The 4 year old goes to bed any time between 7 and 7.30 and the 7 year old between 7.30 and 8, although on rare occasions he'll turn in with his sister.
It also depends what time you get up - my children have to be out of bed by 7.00 three morings a week.
Snack after school.
Proper dinner at 7 together.
Bedtime at 8, asleep by 8.30ish. Mine are 3 and nearly 5, but don't need to wake up before 8.
The nanny gives them a snack and they tend at the moment to eat with their big brother at about 7.30 or 8. They are age 8. Deends on morning time. When their sisters were their age we had to get the children up and out of hte house by 7.30am to get school coaches. Now we don't have to leave until 8.15am so that makes a difference to getting up time and going to sleep time. They know I like them out of the way by or before 9 and they're very good about that at the moment.
4:15 till morning is a long time to go without food for a little one, so can imagine that yes, they would want a snack. Why not build it into the routine - after bath, before story, for example?
Hula DD does that quite happily often. She has nursery tea 3 days a week which I think is about 3.45. I would then offer her a snack at 6ish when we eat, but often she will not have anything (she is usually tired). DS OTOH in the same regime at the same age would have a proper dinner followed by a yoghurt/fruit/pudding.
Now DS is 6 (Y1) and we eat at about 6 ish as a family. I hardly ever give a snack after school, the childminder usually does. If he has a playdate they will eat earlier - 5-5.30 (in fact better go put the sausages on!). Bed is at 7.30 for both DS and DD, although DD sometimes still has naps (she is 3).
I make the children dinner for about 4.30 as they are starving by then and I'd rather not give their dinner close to bedtime to give it time to digest. We eat together as a family at weekends but dh doesn't get home until 6pm so I don't think that's reasonable to only give them an hour to eat and then digest food before bed. Dinner is supposed to be the smallest meal of the day really too for that reason I suppose. If they are hungry before bed then a small snack.
snack at about 3.30pm (fruit usually)
Tea is between 5-5.30pm
DD2 bed by 6.30pm
DD1 snack (toast or fruit) at 7pm
DD2 bed 7.30pm
DD1 is 3 next month and DD2 is 20 months
Mine are 20 months to 7 years.
Snack at 3.45-4pm ish when they get in from school - fruit, toast, scone etc
Dinner at 6ish when dh gets in from work
Quick bath for those that need it then I take ds3 to bed and settle him at about 7.30. Meanwhile dh puts dd to bed and has her settled by 7.45 (she's 4) The boys come up to bed around 7.30 then we do reading with them in bed and let them read in bed afterwards. They don't have a 'lights out' time as they tend to regulate themselves pretty well and are generally well-rested in the morning.
Dd is 3 1/2 years
has a snack at 3ish notmally fruit
dinner between 5pm - 5.30pm week days
bath starting at 6pm every night and is in a long as she likes.
bed between 7pm - 7.30pm - book
She sometimes asks for some warm milk (about 4oz) but most nights just goes to bed without.
dd is 2.3. She has a snack around 4pm. If she sleeps on the way home from my mum's then she will generally refuse to eat dinner, otherwise she has dinner with me and dh between 6 and 7pm. She goes to bed any time between 7:30 and 9:30 depending when she naps (normally on the way home from mum's around 5:30 for a couple of hours).
When I was 11 I was going to bed at 7:30 and thought I was hard done by because all my friends were going to bed at 9. I would say you're being very fair with your dc's bedtimes.
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