Your opinions please. My DD is an only child, aged 9. From the age of 2-7 we tried for another child and I had five miscarriages. We decided to stop trying for all our sakes. I feel more than I possibly would do otherwise that she's a wonderful gift.
DD is thoughtful, sensitive, funny and clever. She's getting on well at school though has some issues with being bored, not concentrating or caring about lessons, we seemed to have worked this out with her and her teacher and all's going well at school. She's got a good set of friends and is friendly with others in the class, too. Her problem and therefore our problem is her foul temper.
I've just experienced it and this is what happened. One of her close friends was having a party this afternoon starting at 3pm. Guests were invited to wear pyjamas; yesterday DD and I had a girly time choosing new PJs for her and she wore them last night.This morning at breakfast she spilled a little juice on herself and was a bit narked as she wanted them spick and span for the party but she wiped off the juice and hung the bottoms out to dry. There was a small stain which she noticed this afternoon at about 2.50 when she was getting changed into them. She started moaning about it to me and I asked what she'd like me to do - DH was in the living room, we were in the hall outside - she started crying but no answer, I said I could get other bottoms or she could put these on and it didn't matter as no-one would notice. This set her off into full tantrum mode. DH came out and tried to calm her but she screamed at him 'Go away' over and over, so he did. I just sat and said I was there when she was ready. I reached out to take her in my arms but she pushed me away. It was 3pm. She was kneeling down and slapping and scratching her legs and really screeching and screaming. I moved away as I wondered if it'd be better if I wasn't there, she went mad and ran after me and threw the vacuum hose down on the floor. At this point, she was nearly hysterical, I slapped her hand and told her not to do that. I said quietly that I was there if she wanted me and I went back to sitting on the floor in the hall. I few minutes later she came to me and cried and said 'I want to go, I want to go'. And I said she could go as soon as she'd calmed down. She calmed down and put the new but stained PJs on. I asked her in her calmed state if she knew what it was about and she said it was the stain on the PJ bottoms that started it and then anger took over. She's done this a few times before and I just don't know what to do. Any ideas. It happened at school a couple of times last year, beginning with a really small incident but she's not doing it at school now. It happened a couple of weeks ago after school when her two friends had Heelys on but she'd left hers behind. It was going to take too long to go home for them and that set her off - awful in public! So yeah I'd say it's probably once every few weeks or so.
I don't know what to do, I don't know if I'm doing the right thing when she's in the middle of it. I don't know whether she'll grow out of it. I don't know whether I need to speak to the GP about it. I feel at a complete loss.
Just to also let you know, she's never been able to get to sleep without one of us being with her in the room; she gets scared she'll have nightmares. Completely justified as she usually does. She wakes nearly every night a couple of hours into her sleep crying out and all sweaty. This has been going on since toddler time. The GP said it was night terrors and she'd probably grow out of it, that was when she was about 5. I don't know if any of this is related but just thought I'd tell you.
If you've got this far, please let me know how you see it from where you're standing, I just don't know what to do. DH and I agree that we bumble through it and hope for the best but if there are any good strategies that anyone knows for helping her, please could you tell me. Thanks so much. Very
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DD aged 9 - temper tantrums
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liz12 · 24/06/2007 16:53
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