Hi all,
I'm new here so hoping I'm posting in the right place.
My 4 year old really struggles with changes to his expectations. He always has done to some extent, such as when his nursery changed the morning routine from walking in to get breakfast to walking in to play first and breakfast when most children were in. This caused a year of horrible drop offs. When his keyworker wasn't there straight away, horrible drops offs.
We have to warn him when meals are going to be happening or if something is going to change that day.
He became a big brother in August and adores his little brother, but as any older sibling we are seeing a bit more challenging behaviour as he learns how to deal with not being an only child anymore.
We attempted to go to his pre school fair at the weekend. His pre school is part of the nursery he has attended since he was 11 months old. However he freaked that the fair was in other rooms in the nursery and not just preschool. refused to go into the other rooms, had a complete meltdown so we left.
Last night we had said Daddy would do bedtime. However whilst I read him a story (part of his routine is a downstairs story) my youngest fell asleep in Daddy's arms. So we felt Daddy should put down the youngest and I would do bed with the eldest. However, this caused another melt down. So bad that DH stepped in and did bedtime as he'd put my youngest down. (I wish he hadn't but this is an ongoing conversation with DH about giving into tantrums).
Am I on my own with this or can this be put down to typical 4 year old behaviour/becoming an older sibling and trying to find his way?
Feeling quite down about it all.
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4 Year old not coping with changes
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EandAmummy · 03/12/2018 10:23
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