I know this is like "business as usual" on MN but I'd like some advice on how best to deal with my ds, who is 2 tomorrow.
We moved house about 8 weeks ago, and he was upset about that for a week but seemed okay. Then he suddenly stopped wanting to go to his childminder (who is an MNer) and every morning said "No [CM] day, no [CM] day". Little did he realise, there weren't many CM days left anyway, as she was about to finish up to have a baby.
Since then I've been working part-time hours (using leave to make up the difference) because I simply can't face finding another CM. He still says every day "no [CM] day, mummy day". He's very upset about the CM's baby, at least face-to-face, was quite calm in discussing the baby since then.
Then a friend came to visit on Tuesday for a week, with her 2.5 yo ds. He is lovely and very friendly, but is much bigger than my ds and has been in nursery for a year or so, so is much more versed in the "grab the toy you want and hold on to it" principle. My ds doesn't know what to do when this little boy grabs what he's playing with, and I can only do so much as (a) the little boy doesn't speak English and (b) often ds has put the toy down already anyway, but gets upset about someone taking it away (not entirely reasonable to my logical, adult view of the world!).
He's getting more and more upset, and although the little boy goes home on Monday, we are then having to go to visit my mum for the rest of the week, so that I can go and work from one of our regional offices to get some stuff done that needs to be face to face. After that, I am trying to work out how best to settle him, and think I need to take some time off, to allow him to feel more secure in our new situation. Except I can't take time off indefinitely, so can't work out if that's better or worse.
Argh - I don't know. I know that he's not going to be scarred for a life by a few upsetting weeks, but I wonder how to make the transition easier for him, whilst feeling in my heart of hearts that it's my fault for not being at home, and (simultaneously) my fault for not having sent him to a nursery so he is better able to deal with bigger boys.
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2 yo upset by older boy
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tribpot · 21/06/2007 21:19
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