So recently our 8 year old ds behaviour has been awful!
To a point where I feel like I don't even like him anymore most days.
I avoid taking him anywhere on my own because I can't cope with his behaviour.
We can't get him looked after by family or friends because he is so rude and cheeky no one wants to look after him!
He hits, kicks, screams, slams doors etc.
For background, he's always had a short temper and been a paddy thrower but it's gone from being once every few months to every single day for the last couple of months. He used to be the most kind and loving little boy but now He has absolutely no respect for anyone and no patience with anyone.
He is well behaved at school but he doesn't particularly like school and is not interested in learning at all but he does achieve average/sometimes above average grades.
At home though we are finding ourselves either walking on eggshells to try not to upset him or getting to a point of just shouting at him.
We have stopped him watching YouTube videos thinking they may be influencing, we have limited Xbox and he doesn't play any games that aren't age suitable.
We have tried talking to him, shouting at him, removing Xbox/toys etc. Stopping him from going to his hobbies, time out, ignoring the behaviour. We have tried to praise for positives but at the moment there really aren't many positives at all as he is constantly horrid to everyone. Even his 11 year old sister has had enough.
He has had issues at school with a certain child which he has been blaming for his behaviour but even over the 6 weeks holidays his behaviour was out of control so I'm not sure it's entirely true.
We have had a really difficult time at home the last few months that I know he is feeling the effects of. We are also living in an extremely small space at the moment so we are all on top of each other. This is temporary but is going to be the case for a few more months yet.
He also says horrible things like I wish I wasn't alive anymore, why don't you just strangle me, I have the most horrible life, everybody hates me.
He also accuses me and my husband and other people of hurting him.
I just don't know what to do with anymore... I lost my temper with him tonight and now I feel awful about it. There is just no reasoning with him though.
Tonight's kick off started because he walked into the door frame trying to get past me and his sister so he shouted at his sister 'why did you shove me?' I told him that she hadn't and that was it, he just exploded!
I think he may have anxiety but I may just be making excuses for him?
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Violent behaviour from ds
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namechanger0987 · 08/11/2018 20:44
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