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Concerned my 4yo son has ADHD and can't be diagnosed till 6

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password8180 Thu 08-Nov-18 08:39:13


I don't know if anyone can offer me any advise or assistance please? My 4 year old was born at 34 weeks and has some health concerns (mild diplegic cerebral palsy in his legs and PVL - some white matter missing in his brain due to blood and oxygen depravation, he also has chronic TIC disorder). They are mild and he is doing well, my concerns relate to his behaviour. He is under a community paediatrician and has recently had an assessment for ASD, which I knew he did not have. I thought the assessment was also for ADHD but they won't test for this until he is 6.

He started school in September and he is having some issues. The teacher has told me he has some behavioural problems, hitting other children, she also described him as 'needy' and said he 'doesn't stop talking', he like the teachers attention as much as possible. To me he has all the symptoms of ADHD and I don't feel it is fair that he struggles at school for 2 years and may be labelled as a naughty child, without any support.

He struggles to be aware that he needs to take turns or share, he cannot control his emotions well, he gets very upset or angry easily and over the smallest things, he is a very cautious child, he doesn't understand that if you are talking he cannot talk over you, he physically cannot stand still, if still he sways from side to side. He does not tolerate loud noise at all well. He is extremely obsessive over things he likes (a book, a computer game etc).

At his ASD assessment feedback sessions, the ASD specialist and others commented that he is unable to control his emotions and goes from 0-60 in 2 seconds. They recommended The Incredible 5 Point Scale book, which I have bought but do not know how to use it to be honest. The paediatrician also said they don't assess for ADHD until he is 6 and that there will be learning, behaviour and congnitive difficulties because at some point before birth he suffered some lack of oxygen and blood supply.

I looked into private ADHD assessments but the cost is astronomic (£845 for initial assessment). I don't know if that would benefit him or not, I have been thinking about trying to apply the behavioural therapy for children with ADHD.

I just need some advice from anyone else please. Have your children been diagnosed before 6? Can the school help? At nursery he had 1:1 support with the a teacher, at school it is 30 in the class with a teacher and support assistant.

I want to do the best I can for him and don't want him to be labelled as a naught child, the school have already mentioned a behaviour plan to me. I also feel like I am battling my own family. My mum doesn't believe in things like ADHD, she is old school and thinks kids are just naughty, and of course it is my fault because I 'let him get away with naughty behaviour', which I don't.

Thank you for reading my rantings!


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JiltedJohnsJulie Thu 08-Nov-18 22:50:40

Sorry to hear that your DM isn’t being supportive. I don’t have any experience but thought I’d post anyway (well, this is MN) to suggest you ask MNHQ to move your thread to either _chat for the traffic or SN Chat for the experienced MNers.

Hopefully this will bump for you too thanks

password8180 Fri 09-Nov-18 16:45:18

Hi, thank you for the response. I'm not sure what all the abbreviations mean!

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JiltedJohnsJulie Fri 09-Nov-18 17:47:15

MN is Mumsnet, MNHQ is Mumsnet Head Quarters, SN is Special Needs and DM is Darling Mother.

There’s a it’s of MN abbreviations here smile

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