"Disturbing" is the best word I could think of to describe what I found in my letterbox this morning after dropping dd (5y 9m) at school. It was a sealed envelope, like children's stationery, with To you from C* on the front, in a child's writing. "C" is a boy who lives two doors down from us, and is in the same year as dd, although in a different class. They don't really play together, but do talk sometimes if they see each other outdoors, and he seems like a nice enough boy, maybe a little bit of a scallywag but nothing terrible. Like most boys and girls at this age they have a bit of a love-hate thing going on, but not much more than teasing on his part and showing off on both sides.
Anyway, I contemplated whether to open it or to leave it for dd when she got home from school, but something told me to open it myself. I was very glad I did. It was written in a child's handwriting, a small page of matching paper folded in half with "pleas open" on it. I unfolded it and was shocked to read this: "I love you so much I want to sex you and dack you" (which in slang means to pull down your underwear) "and suck your fany" with drawings underneath of an "anatomically correct" boy and girl and their names.
My first instinct was to storm down to his house and confront his mother with it (I don't really know her except on nodding terms IYKWIM), but I was too shocked and upset. Am I taking it too personally? It's not the first time we have had little notes of this nature put in our letterbox but in the past I have ignored them, plus there has been no name on them before.
I don't actually think that C, who is 5 and a half, wrote it himself, or at least not without some help. He has an older brother who is 8 or 9 at a guess. There are also other boys in the street around this age who hang around with C and his brother. It is probably some kind of sick joke, but I would like to put an end to it, before dd learns to read! Imagine if she had opened it herself and asked me to read it to her! What would she have made of my reaction? Plus of course it had the crude drawings on it.
I am so confused and upset about it - am I blowing it out of proportion? I know when dh sees it tonight he will be angry too. Should I just take the letter to the boys' parents and show them? Could that make it worse? I have no experience with older boys, so any advice or thoughts would be much appreciated.
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Disturbing letter delivered to 5yr old dd - what should I do? URGENT advice needed!
mollipops · 31/07/2002 08:56
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