Help.
My usually lovely DD turns three at the end of next month and it seems is using the upcoming change of age to change her behaviour too.
Normally lovely, kind, bright and able to compromise, she has become rude, worryingly willing to push buttons and constantly contradicting everything I or Dh says.
She is transitioning to the pre-registration class at nursery and I don't know if this is coincidence or part of the problem.
She won't listen to me or Dh. Constantly contradicts us (no no no no), continues doing something when we tell her to stop, won't help tidy up anymore, won't eat nicely anymore(food gets spilled over the table on purpose now).
She seems to be purposefully physically knocking us/climbing over us, getting in our faces with tongue out and pestering our pets which she knows is wrong and hasn't ever done before.
It's a complete 180 from her behaviour even two months ago but looking back it has been gradual.
I have always praised good behaviour and encouraged kindness and polite behaviour and she had blossomed into a lovely little girl but it has no effect now. I try so hard to find good behaviour to praise her as I feel all I fucking do now is say,"no" or,"stop" or am having conversations about how she has to be good now.
I was in tears today. It's just low level constant challenging behaviour all the time and it's so hard - I don't think I'm dealing with it at all. I am terrified that this is her now, or that I am going to make it worse by reacting.
I give her warning, I remove toys/privileges/situations, I still try to praise any good behaviour, I talk to her and explain why we don't do things or why she is in trouble. I've shouted a lot I've given her time out. I've given her time to relax and play independently, I've devoted every single minute of the day to her and still we are having these issues.
I'm feeling so so low. My patience is short. I feel like an awful mother. I feel like everything I have done until now is all for nothing. She actually seems spiteful. I hate to say that.
Does anyone have any tips? Any methods that worked? Any words of advice or wisdom?
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3yo behaviour turned awful
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gettofuckthrees · 07/10/2018 17:39
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