Long story short, we had moved DS (3) from a lovely council run nursery to a private one because it was closer to us and more convenient. Private one is well run but less friendly and teachers aren’t as in tune with and close to the kids.
DS has not complained or demanded to return to the previous nursery, and looks forward to the new nursery. However I notice he doesn’t have any close bonds with the teachers and they don’t have so much of a personal aproach with the kids - eg in the last nursery they quickly got to know DSs character and talked about him and his progress like they were a family member, with affection in their voice. I could imagine DS going to any of them for a hug if he needed comfort. This new nursery seems impersonal and more about making money.i get a brief rundown of what activities he did and any behavioural problems at the end of the day (eg we made smoothies, played with sand, and he had to have a time out for hitting another boy), but nothing along the lines of “he really seems to enjoy playing without play dough, does he do a lot of messing play?” “He talks about dogs a lot, it seems like he’s an animal lover” or any questions about him to me which would show interest in him. It’s nothing like his last nursery.
We have a new baby in the family and in combination with the new nursery DS is acting out and is stressed and cries and has nightmares at night, and has started wetting himself again.
I wonder if I did the right thing by moving him, and whether I should ask if he wants to go back, I’m hesitant because his old nursery wouldn’t even be the same other than having some of the same kids in his class - the teachers would be different, and he wouldnt be in the 2 year old classroom anymore.
What really got to me is that today as we left, without prompting he loudly and clearly said goodbye to all the kids by name. Not a single response. He did it three times before I distracted him, but the teachers were only feet away but seemed to have tuned him out now I was here and didn’t reply either. It’s a little thing, and by itself not significant at all - the teachers were occupied with other things, and well kids will be kids - but it’s just the way this nursery is. Impersonal feeling and a bit cold.
Would you change back to the old nursery?
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BillywigStings · 18/09/2018 01:30
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