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2-year old hates daddy/loves mummy

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CosyPinkBlanket · 05/08/2018 10:43

Just that really. She is a real mummy's girl. When her dad and I are together of an evening (when she should be in bed!) or weekend mornings, she will walk right past him and come to me. He will say "DD, daddy will do your book with you" but she either ignores him or says no, mummy. He took her out this morning to give a bit of a rest and I could hear screaming and crying for mummy at the end of the street! He's a great dad - does bath every night, plays with her every night and gives plenty cuddles when she lets him but I have to be near. I think she's ok when I'm out but we are both starting to lose our patience now. Him because he feels so rejected and me because she has to be sitting on me or climbing up me all the time. He can't do bedtime as she gets hysterical screaming for mummy. I'm also still breastfeeding to sleep even though she's 2 but she won't go to sleep otherwise so I think that has a lot to do with him not being able to get her down but it doesn't explain her rejection of him through the days and evenings. Any advice or insight please?

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Nogodsnomasters · 06/08/2018 22:48

No advice but just to say my ds is exactly like this, he's nearly 4 and there is no change so I'm watching with interest. Similar to you.. If I'm working or out there are no issues between dh and ds, it's only when I'm there ds will not let dh do anything for him, help him, cuddle him etc. But me? Get all the love and affection in the world.

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nowifi · 07/08/2018 15:43

My DD is the same, it's so annoying especially when you want a break for 5 mins!

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mude · 09/08/2018 20:04

My 2yo is the same, but opposite. She is all about Daddy

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Summerdays2014 · 09/08/2018 20:31

mude, my 2.7 month old is the same - he only wants his daddy. I try not to let it bother me but it really upsets me.

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CosyPinkBlanket · 09/08/2018 21:49

I feel I can't win - the few times she has gone to daddy, I feel left out!!!

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mude · 10/08/2018 21:10

@Summerdays2014 it's so tough isn't it. I try to stay light hearted about it but it breaks my heart when she calls for daddy if she ever hurts herself when he is at work and I'm right there 😢 I hope we will be closer as she grows up

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Laserbird16 · 11/08/2018 13:03

Are you me? I just hope she will grow out of it. I do notice if I'm not around then daddy is great but one sniff of me and DD is then all about me. No real words of wisdom but I try to take it as compliment that DD is securely attached and cross my fingers that when DC 2 arrives she will be a bit less obsessed with me. I always say to DH it is tough being number 1!

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heartsease68 · 11/08/2018 13:58

I had one that was like this with my husband and another that was like it with me. There was no real reason that we could see - they'd both just made their stubborn little minds up. Unfortunately we've had to wait years for the climate to change with them!! But it does.

I think the bf is probably giving you an impossible edge.

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CosyPinkBlanket · 11/08/2018 17:14

DH took her downstairs for brekkie the other morning and she screamed and screamed. She was hysterical and hiccupping and shouting for mummy. It's lovely that she loves me, I just wish she wasn't so off with her daddy. I do wonder about the bf-ing and I am looking to stop but she still adores nursing at night and it's the only way she'll go down. Trying to wean her off is a whole other post on its own!