Was hard to think of a title that describes this situation accurately.
DS1 (aged 3) is a good boy most of the time, but occasionally he has a nightmare, meltdown day for no apparent reason (he is not ill or becoming ill, routine has not, changed, no trigger at all). When this happens, whether his behaviour is addressed or whether you try to ignore it, it always escalates. Obviously ignoring bad behaviour causes bigger problems down the line, so we try to discipline. First we ask him to stop his behaviour ‘please use your quiet voice you are hurting my ears with that shouting’ for instance. He ignores this. ‘If you don’t stop that screaming and shouting you will have a time out/your toys will be taken away/you won’t get any cake’ (we have tried a lot of different things). He ignores this. Time out is started. He will never go voluntarily, the second it is announced that he is getting a time out, he starts spitting and wiping snot on us, and will begin biting and hitting if we try to come near him.
Btw, if it’s not time out, for instance if we choose to take his toys away as a discipline method he will begin spitting, wiping snot everywhere or even peeing on the carpet.
OKAY so this is where I have no idea. What would you do at this point? Obviously this behaviour must be addressed but I give up. I am in tears thinking about it. He behaves like this and we must stay in all day. All I can do on one of these days is try not to upset him as I have no clue what to do when no threat works and any discipline makes him violent (and believe me it escalates to screaming, kicking and scratching).
I really need advice here so I am not going to lie. In the past I tried smacking him. He laughed in my face and said he wanted me to do it again. Today he bit my husbands hand so hard the bones crunched and left teeth marks.
Obviously he doesn’t have a condition as he rarely behaves like this, but when he does it is constant all day. I really need to know how to deal with it
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Child reacts to discipline violently
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Pansy0926 · 24/07/2018 19:51
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