Literally every 5-10 mins he is saying "feedy" and getting hysterically upset if I don't comply. Distraction hardly works at all - results in me dragging a whining/screaming toddler by the hand (if out) or him shrieking & thrashing on the floor (if home). If I refuse he gets so wound up he forgets what the issue was and screams and hiccups for an hour or more and can't even breastfeed he's so upset.
He's always been a poor sleeper and a frequent feeder but this is extreme.
He hardly eats no real need given all the breastmilk though will eat a reasonable variety e.g. lentil pilaf, carrot/beans/spinach soup, asparagus risotto, hard cheeses: likes rich umami stuff, though also will hoover up pom bears or icecream when rarely on offer, so has fairly typical toddler tastes if he gets the opportunity.
Sleep is typically 2 hours in the day, 2 hours in the evening then wake & demand to feed every few minutes the whole rest of the night. He is clearly sleep deprived but can't stay asleep after the initial bit of sleep at night.
He is in 3--4 yo clothes and the height of a normal 3yo. Weight is proportional or a bit under for height (ie he tracks far above 100th centile for height and something like 95th for weight for a 19mo, but his BMI is 50th centile or lower for the given height). Family are tall but this looks like being huge due to overfeeding to me.
I am exhausted. I have been existing from day to day on adrenaline for a year or more. I am so tired I can't drive or work. DH is helpful but works and needs to sleep to hold down a job. He gets his 6 hours a night in the other room while I am in with DS, feeding/cosleeping/not sleeping as DS wakes, cries, feeds, sleeps, on a 10 minute cycle all night. Me being in a different room or DH being in with DS makes no difference. Sleep training hasn't worked have tried CC, gradual withdrawal, DH being in there, each for 3 weeks nothing made any difference other than to make the feeding and sleeping worse and worse.
I don't want to stop breastfeeding completely but this is unsustainable.
Anyone got any advice?
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19mo won't stop breastfeeding day & night
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mugOfCoffee · 31/05/2018 10:21
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