My husband and I have been together nearly 20years and have 4 children aged 8, 5, 15 months and 3months. We’ve struggled for a long time with him not being around. He works often 12 hour days, then he goes out straight from work 2-3 times a week and goes out on Saturdays from midday and usually stays out til the early hours. I’m pretty frazzled being on my own with 4 children from morning til night and getting more depressed. On Thursday I went out for the first time in weeks on my own. After an hour he sent me a message of our youngest crying saying she wouldn’t stop. I came home. She was fine. She needed to burp. Yesterday I went out at 5.30pm to ikea to get some bits for my eldest daughters room. I got back at 8.30pm and he was obviously angry. This morning he has said he can’t look after all 4 children in his own and I was out of order going out. He said he can’t cope with the 4 and I can’t leave them with him. I’m losing my mind. I’ve been up since 6.45 feeding the children, cleaning up, putting washing on, and he got out of bed at 9.30am to lay into me about yesterday. (He wasn’t out although it was Saturday as he says he’s taken a few weeks to be at home to support me).
What on earth can I do? I can’t never leave the house! Is that what other mums do?
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Help! Husband says he won’t have children on his own
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Blonde4281 · 20/05/2018 10:15
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