I feel like I need to help my daughter to socialise but I have no idea how. I was a young mum and have no friends with kids her age. We've moved house 3 times in the last 3 years and are finally settled but are still waiting on a place at the local school so she is still attending one 4 miles away. She's too shy to just take herself off out and say hello to kids round here. She was a lone child for 7 years and got used to it but she's becoming quite lonely, she built up the courage a couple of weeks ago to play on the trampoline with the girl who lives next door (and her friend) but only because her dad introduced her and then she ended up having an accident as she didn't know how to get home. She had been helped to jump over the fence to get there and didn't want to fuss asking to go home so never said anything. When I got back from work 4 hours later she was still really upset, mortified as in her words "we was just about to make friends". She felt like she embarrassed herself as she's never had that happen before but I did my best to reassure her and spoke to the girl and her friend (both 12) and they told me they didn't think bad of her and she's welcome to play again. Their dad also brushed it off. I then saw in her school book that her personal goal is to 'play with more people'.
I feel so sorry for her, loads of my time is taken by her brother, he's just turning 10 months and is into everything I need eyes in the back of my head, he's teething too and doesnt sleep well so often we're both overtired. I'm stuck for joining clubs and stuff because since finishing maternity leave I have changed jobs so now work shifts around their dad, sometimes our family have to help out too and with school being so far I don't want to add to it.
I just want my girl to have a childhood she will remember and right now I don't feel I'm giving her what she needs. Any suggestions? Apologies for it being long and jumbled, never posted before! Tia x
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Lonely daughter, aged 8
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Isachol · 04/05/2018 12:42
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