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I really don't like my 6 year old!!!!!!

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starlord84 Wed 02-May-18 17:42:57

I have a 6 yr old and I swear he is the spawn of Satan!! He has absolutely no respect for anything, anyone or himself. I have read countless posts and books on parenting techniques and I swear I have used every strategy known to try and correct his behaviour but nothing works!!

From the moment he gets up until he goes to bed he is simply horrible, he fights me every second he gets physically and emotionally. He is a nightmare at school, I actually dread sending him he has been threatened with suspension countless times. He is ALWAYS on a behaviour plan he has seen the school counselor with no real impact. He fights with his friends - one time he ran from one side of the playground to the other and kicked a child to the ground and beat him FOR NO REASON!!!! He is violent and chaotic and I simply can't take it anymore!!!

I have never spoiled him, I have spent the last 6 years talking to him, reassuring him offering love and attention, using appropriate boundaries within the home. He is not encouraged by rewards he has no interest in them, he doesn't care about toys or sweets. If I say I'm taking something off him it does not faze him in the slightest he simply does not care he will just sit in silence.

He answers me back to no end and some of his insults are really hurtful. He doesn't watch much TV I screen EVERYTHING prior to him watching it. He doesn't have an ipad, I won't let him watch YouTube. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I don't shout, and I definitely do not behave like him so I have absolutely no idea where he is learning this crap from. Home life is calm and relaxed (when he isn't tearing the place apart) his father and I are so angry with him we don't know what we are doing wrong!!!!! I literally cry most nights nothing works I can picture what he is going to be like at 15 and I am so worried.

I never show him my anger or upset I just sit and worry when he isn't here. What can I do? Who can help me? I have spoken to the GP and he doesn't think there's anything wrong with him - that's because he was a little angel in the doctors office!!!!!


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Saturdayselling Wed 02-May-18 19:13:59

Gosh, OP. I'm not sure I can be of any help but I didn't want to leave it unanswered.

Is it really all the time? Is there anything that makes him calm?

Knittedfairies Wed 02-May-18 19:35:37

Can your son’s school counsellor refer him to CAMHS if your GP won’t?

Kleinzeit Wed 02-May-18 20:25:00

That sounds really upsetting, and I'm sorry your GP is so useless. If your DS is permanently on a behaviour plan at school and threatened with suspension, the reality is surely that there is something wrong. And how a child behaves in the doctors office, nice and quiet with an adult, has nothing to do with how they behave in a noisy busy playground or classroom.

A couple of things to try. The school are obviously very concerned about your DS so will they support you in asking for a referral to CAMHS - that's children's mental health services? And second, since you are having issues with him at home, ask the GP to refer you to a parenting group. Doesn't mean there's amything wrong with your parenting, but these days there are hoops may you have to go through before you can get a CAMHS referral and attendance at a parenting group is often one of those hoops. Also if you are trying to use the strategies that the parenting group suggests and they aren't working, the leader may also be able to support you in getting the referral your DS needs.

You can also ask to see a different GP. Some know more about children's behaviour problems than others and a different GP might be happy to refer your DS.


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