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Time for a child psychologist?

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RosemaryFrances Mon 26-Mar-18 21:30:34

Hi All, our daughter is 5 years old and we are noticing more and more that she is having difficulties socialising with other children and making friends. She’s always been very shy (or we’ve put it down to shyness) even to the point where the staff at her preschool were questioning whether she could actually talk. She is very talkative at home and articulate. She’s now in reception year and at a recent parents evening her teacher said that she is progressing more than fine academically but her social skills are of concern. She doesn’t seem to know how to make friends and this doesn’t come naturally to her, like it does with the other children. When one of the children ask her something she will just start laughing loudly and uncomfortably (not a real laugh) and they will just eventually get confused and walk off. She does get invited to parties but doesn’t have a friendship group or a best friend and when she goes to the parties she doesn’t join in, she just hangs near me. She also doesn’t make eye contact very often with other people but does with us at home. I have wondered whether she is on the autism scale, I just don’t know enough about it. Maybe a child psychologist could help. Any thoughts?

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JiltedJohnsJulie Mon 26-Mar-18 22:17:00

It does sound like it could be worth asking your GP for a referral OP.

applecatchers36 Mon 26-Mar-18 22:27:33

Yes referral to child development clinic if you speak to your GP to request.
It sounds like she might need a specialist assessment to explore if she has any special needs, or is on the Spectrum? It sounds like she is bright and articulate just has difficulty with Social Skills. If so she might need extra support, e.g. OT, SALT etc..Also might need to be recognised for extra support with an Education, Health, Care Plan.

RosemaryFrances Mon 26-Mar-18 23:02:45

Thanks so much for your advice. It sounds silly but I hadn’t thought about going to the GP, was trying to figure out how we were going to afford a psychologist! Will get her booked in, thanks again smile

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AddictiveCereal Mon 26-Mar-18 23:21:37

It might possibly be ASD. My son's ASD only came to light when he started school and we noticed he wasn't 'connecting' with the other children. He is doing well now at age 8 and has a very happy life - but does still struggle with social skills.

Is it possible she has selective mutism? I had that as a child - I was mute in school due to anxiety - but very loud at home. I was never helped with this and suffered a lot with it and only grew out of my social anxiety issues in my 20s. I believe there is proper help for it now which is great. The number one thing I advise is not to put your DD under any pressure at all about joining in - just make her feel completely accepted and focus on the positive things she does and then talk to professionals about how to help her properly. My dad put pressure on me to be more social and it just made me feel useless and more anxious.

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