My 14 month old DS is extremely willful, I think he has been since birth. I always found him very difficult right from the start, he had/still has reflux so he cried a lot as a baby and now that he is a toddler... well the crying has turned into either constant whinging or major major tantrums. It's the tantrums I'm concerned about as they are beginning to wear thin on me and I'm starting to feel very worn out by it all. They probably started at 11 months, with the rageful piercing screams and headbutting the floor or the walls and throwing himself around but now they have escalated to being a lot more dramatic and a lot more often. For example, if I take him to the park and he goes to walk into the path of a swing that's in use and I try to guide him away he will meltdown and do the things I've described, or whenever he has to go back into his pushchair to go home. Or when we are at home and he's told no or not to do something. The thing is, he doesn't listen at all, I tell him no and he just smirks at me and carries on. I've tried things like remaining calm, distracting him, placing him in the hallway, ignoring the tantrums to telling him off and so far nothing seems to work. I'd say there are probably 3 to 4 full blown tantrums a day that last for a good 10/15 minutes. He is my first child and I don't have many other friends with children so I have no idea what to expect, if this is normal or if he is just more prone to tantrums than others. It seems like other parents I see with their children of a similar age are calmly enjoying their time together and aren't having such extreme meltdowns constantly. I'm beginning to not want to take him out anywhere in public as I find it so embarrassing that you can hear him from the other end of the supermarket. I guess what I'm looking for is advice on how to deal with this behaviour and perhaps stories of other mums with similar children so I know it's not just me haha! I am also a little concerned by the fact that he hates to be held (he will scream and thrash until you let go of him) and he won't hold your hand when walking so if I try to take his hand to stop him running into the road he will again throw a tantrum and drop to the floor so I can't hold his hand. He also has no words yet so perhaps is frustrated by a lack of communication?
I've just realised how long and rambling this post is, I think I just needed a good moan!
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Concerns over 14 month old's behaviour, looking for advice please.
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LifeIsButADream1 · 25/03/2018 11:03
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