So my daughter, now 10, had become increasingly withdrawn and cried constantly at nothing, suddenly didn’t want to go to school and was an overall mess. Something she hadn’t been before. I finally pushed and pushed and found out my step son, 11, was really bullying her and making her feel worthless, calling her fat etc. I dug a little deeper and it turned out he had been kissing her ‘front bottom’ on a few occasions and when she said no, he would promise to play Minecraft with her afterwards. She says he then didn’t play the game so the next time he asked she said no to being kissed down there. At this point he became very angry with her and said she couldn’t tell anyone or he would be so angry. I had spotted him glare at her often, but thought it was just a sibling thing (we have him 50% of the time). He then had the nerve a few weeks ago to look me in the eye with a big smile and say in a big fake/insincere voice to my daughter “shall we play Doctors?” She said a very fast “no” and withdrew to the computer to FaceTime her friends. I hadn’t realised what it meant at the time. On hearing my daughter pour all of this out to me I stayed at my sisters house that night and have decided to end my 2 year marriage. I wasn’t happy anyway (and I think my husband and his son may have undiagnosed Aspergers) but this was the final straw. Have I done the right thing or was this just a case of doctors and nurses..? I don’t have a son so I don’t quite understand what goes through an 11 year olds head.
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Ihatequeenbees · 13/03/2018 11:14
I am so sorry for what you and your DD are going through 
The NSPCC worker has a very good point. Your stepson may have been abused himself or it may be that he needs to be carefully taught boundaries to do with sexual behaviour (and social / bullying behaviour too) which he has not learned properly because of his disability. But either way he does need help very urgently, his behaviour is damaging and disturbing and your husband is too deep in denial to see it. Your stepson may do this to someone else, maybe very soon, or perhaps a bit later when he is old enough to be treated like a real abuser and a criminal.
Better to get this in the open and get help for him now. And for your DD too. Yes it is a can of worms but trying to hide it wont help her either. Going to social services rather than the police in the first instance seems sensible given his age. They will want to check that you are protecting her but you are already doing that by keeping her away from your stepson, so that's OK.
Call the NSPCC back tomorrow and let the NSPCC make the referral if you don't feel confident yourself.
Have you got sone support in RL OP? Yiu are having to deal with a lot too 
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