I’m a FTM of 4 month old baby. Until now everything she has wanted I have treated that she has needed; feeding, sleeping, cuddles etc. I read up on 4th trimester and subscribed whole heartedly to it. I am baby led with everything.
I’m wondering when that time is over though and it’s time to start installing some rules. For example the past few nights she has grizled and whined in her jumperoo the whole time I’ve made dinner - she is fed, napped and winded so there’s nothing wrong except she wants cuddles. She stops the second I pick her up. I picked her up because I don’t like to hear her unhappy (she wasn’t crying, just moaning a lot) and dinner had to wait until OH came home and held her.
She is also doing the same when out in the pram, she wants carrying around.
At what point do I stand firm and not pick her up, teaching her she doesn’t get everything she moans for? Is it far too early? I would never leave her crying at any time for a second, but is she learning how to get attention from me? I don’t want to spoil her, or neglect her.
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When do babies start ‘wanting’ and not just ‘needing’ - and when do I start to control that?
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123456kent · 28/02/2018 10:28
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