1 year old crying when I leave him at Nursery

[newmummytonoah2016]

Hi

My little boy has been going to Nursery for about 6 months now (he’s 15 months) and he’s always gone off so happily and never batted an eyelid when I’ve passed him over and gone. The last 2 weeks he’s got a little upset when I’ve left him, last week he was under the weather so I can understand that but this week he’s been fine but has just cling onto me for dear life and cried when I had to pass him over. Which breaks my heart to see!

I had noticed he had got a bit clingier at home when he’s left in a room and can’t see you/get to you. I was just wondering if it’s a normal phase? It’s so upsetting! Hoping it’ll pass soon as I think this is more heart wrenching than unsettled nights!

[Vibe2018]

Sounds normal - of course he doesn't want his mum to leave him.

My son is now 6 but I used to feel awful dropping him off as a baby. The thing is, I'm glad long term I went through with it as he is perfectly well adjusted now and I enjoy my job and I'm glad I didn't give it up. He started to enjoy nursery more from about age 3 when he started making friends there. Now at age 6, he loves his afterschool club.

In my opinion, it's not ideal from a small baby's point of view to be going to nursery but you need to weigh everything up and do what's right for the family as a whole and do what's right in the long-term. For most people it isn't a choice as they need to make money to house and feed their child.

[newmummytonoah2016]

Thank you for the reply. The Nursery he’s at has an app where they upload what he’s upto and typically he was fine as soon as I left. He’s only in 2 days a week, but this has worked perfect up to these last couple of weeks. I know he loves it once he’s there. It’s just the horrible mum guilt you get at hard drop offs isn’t it!