Dd has too much fight

[Gigimoll]

I've never been around a baby before. So this could be entirely normal to me an I'm doing something wrong.
So dd was born fighting. She came out and took a big look around at the nurses everything being her usual nosey self. Enough for the main midwife to be shocked about it and comment on it. To me, she's a normal baby. Just very willful. From day 1 she's fought sleep to a point where she's always passed out eventually. No matter how much I comfort. Along came sleep regression and for both of us to sleep, we put her in the bed. Not only that, we have an old house and no upstairs heating yet. So as it's winter, even if I wrap her up in layers, she's still cold. So she's nice and warm with us.
She's now 10 months old and she's getting pretty good in her crib. We aren't ready to put her in her own room yet, it's far too cold and too big for a heater to do anything to warm it up. But dds fight is really getting me down now. She will be so tired and pissed off and If I try scheduled naps, if won't work. She literally has to pass out in my arms.

OK. So ds is due next month and I'm really worried about them interfearing each other. I know it'll happen anyway, they're babies. But she's still very dependent on 3 nightfeeds and I've tried to wean her. Especially with us both working..
Any advice? I found what works a lot better in her routine which we stick to she's getting so fussy now. I just want to make her happy :(

[EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic]

I’m slightly concerned by the way you describe your DD. At 10 months it’s perfectly understandable that she’s dependant on you. She’s a baby and without you she simply wouldn’t survive.

My first fought sleep too so I know how hard it can be though. What have you tried to help with her naps in the day? Have you read the No Cry Nap Solution? Is her room really too small for a heater? My DDs is tiny, too small for a single bed but we managed to get a cot and oil fired heater in there.

Babycalming is an excellent book too. I read it before having DC2 and I really wished I’d read it before having DC1.

[Gigimoll]

It worries me now as she becomes a bit uncontrollable. I have a lot of patience with her but her crying to the point of passing out is ridiculous. Even on us, off us we've tried everything. Putting her in her crib. We never leave her side when we let her cry. Never. She gets so worked up either way. It's too big for a heater. Her room is huge so a heater would do buggar all. Its just too cold for her if she's already cold in our room which is the smallest room. Tried everything with naps. Literally everything, reading to her, gently singing to her, cuddling her, feeding her, leaving her to cry, you name it. I just don't know how to make her happy right now

[EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic]

Have you put a tshirt DH has worn in her crib? The scent usually settles them. Other things that might work as swaddling and white noise. Mine were reluctant nappers though and I often had to resort to driving in the car or going for long walks.

Did you have a look at the book?

[jaimelannistersgoldenhand]

Is it warmer downstairs? In which case it might be best for her to sleep there. Can you move to a house with central heating?!

I think that your expectations are extremely unrealistic. Many 10 month olds feed at night and it's rather worrying the way that you describe her crying until she passes out or think that she's uncontrollable. Have you seen a gp or similar to see if there is s medical issue?

[berryferry]

Will she nap in the buggy during the day? She sounds overtired.