Sharing, how do you teach it to a 3.9y old ????

[lory]

I am having a terrible time with ds1, and I really don?t know what to do. He makes such a tantrum about sharing, anything anywhere, at home, kindergarten, playground. And of course, this affects the relationship with other parents and children, making me feel extremely embarrassed and lonely. How can I make him stop this behaviour!!????

[ProfYaffle]

Will be watching this thread with interest, dd1 is the same (just turned 3) I know it's age realted and she'll grow out of it but there must be something you can do to show them that sharing is The Thing To Do iyswim.

[adath]

I am not sure how we have really encouraged sharing TBH. One thing we always did was dd as a littly was always up begging if we were eating something lol. We always offered her what we had and encouraged her to do they same if she had something nice. Another thing is to play with him and try to encourage hi to swop tosy with you, play games where you both have to take turns that can make a huge difference.
I also try not to have a mine policy in the house. Obvioisly there are things that she must not have but I do try to let her play with things of mine or dp's like put on my clothes and shoes, things like that and try to think of things of hers to "borrow" and just tell her how kind it was of her to do it.
Your ds is older and I know it is easy for me to say this (i have 3 year old too lol) but try and reason with him, if he throws a wobbler explain to him that (when outside the home) that these toys are for everyone and that they all must take turns and if he has been particulary determained about taking something away from someone else make sure you take it back give it to the other child and tell him why you are doing it.

At home I found a good ting to do was give dd the oppertunity to put some toys away before other children come in. Things that are maybe apecial or that she just doesn't want anyone to play with, this is particularly good around birthdays and things when things are still new and exciting. Then tell him that he has chosen what he would like t keep special and that the rest must be played with nicely and it is up to whatever you decide to be the penalty for not going along if it does go pearshaped.

He is still young and it does take time but it does pass and really if he sees you and any other adults sharing with him it will encourage him to share too.