DS is 6 years old. I and the school are experiencing lots of very aggressive, non-compliant behaviour. This has been coming and going in phases over the last two years. Yesterday it got to the point where he has now been removed from his usual classroom to keep other children safe. Lunchtimes he will hit children with sticks, and refuses to come back in to the classroom after (he tells me this is because he hates sitting down and learning and play time isn't long enough). Yesterday he was refusing to come in when his support worker approached him. He told her there was a frog and when she bent down to look he kicked her in the mouth :( When he was asked why he did this his reply was "because I like hurting people".
I am distraught. The background is that my husband killed himself two years ago. I admit I was a mess for a good year after and did not parent to the best of my ability. YouTube and the Pcs were default parenting for my two children (I also have a DD aged 4 now). After a year struggling on my own I sold my home and have moved to be near family, have cut down my hours at work, have started a parenting course etc. I'm really trying to pull everything back together but I'm terrified the damage has already been done.
The school are employing more specialist support workers. They have also asked I look into whatever extra support there is out there. Please do any mumsnetters know of anything?! We did have a brief stint of support from a local bereavement charity called Mosaic while we lived in Dorset but we are in Yorkshire now and I don't know if there is an equivalent? Cruse apparently were rude to the school and no help at all. I am seeing my GP next week to ask them too.
I'm at a loss and don't know what to do anymore. At home he can be troublesome but none of the violent raging behaviour he exhibits at school. He is very loving and cuddly and sensitive with me. Loves having one on one attention. I've cut out games and severely limited YouTube now as I'm concerned this has had an affect on him.
It's his anger and rage which is the main concern, it becomes unmanageable for him. This was similar to what his father suffered before he killed himself and I am terrified my son will one day do the same - I know it's extreme, but my husband's mother also killed herself so that's two generations above them.
Please please if anyone knows of any extra help please let me know :(
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OneWingedAngel · 18/01/2018 07:04
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