My son is 5 and he is quite an anxious child. He's been like this probably for the last 9 or 10 months, and it's generally around him needing to go to the toilet.
If ever we go somewhere where he's not been before (or sometimes if we've been there), he will always say he needs the toilet (for a poo). You take him and he doesn't go. As soon as we get anywhere, he'll ask if there are toilets, I'll tell him there are, and then he will need to go. And this isn't the thing that some children have about always wanting to go to the toilet just so they can have a look at the toilets. I know some kids do that, god knows why!
He gets like this with going to school as well. I've told him that it's just in his head, and that every time he gets that feeling, to think about something nice or something that he enjoys doing. When he's with me, I'll just non-stop talk to distract him, but it only works for a while. For his nativity play, he was crying on stage, so I told his teacher. I knew it would be that he thought he needed to go the toilet, it was, he went and as is usually the case, didn't go.
We've done the worry box, that didn't seem to work. We try distraction, and that works to a point, but then I can't do that if he's at school. I've also tried telling him that when he gets this feeling, to take a big deep breath in and exhale slowly through his nose. That hasn't worked.
He's going on a school trip in a couple of months time. It's only a couple of miles away, but I'm going to have to take him there a few times beforehand, just so he's familiar with it.
Does anyone have any advice or has had a similar experience? All I keep getting told is it's just a phase, but I'm concerned it'll just get worse.
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Any advice for a 5 year old who gets really anxious?
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susan198130 · 10/01/2018 09:05
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