Hi all, I'm mostly posting this to vent, but it'd be lovely to hear from anyone who's been in a similar situation before.
I have a gorgeous, though strong willed little girl of 27 months. She's very clever, but very strong willed. She's never been an easy child, but in October when I fell pregnant with baby number two, some serious regression started.
We've never really talked about the baby to her loads. Occasionally we'll ask her where the baby is and she'll reply 'in my mummies tummy' and sometimes we will ask her if she will help us with the baby and she seems excited about changing nappies etc! But we don't go on about it on a daily basis.
Anyway, in the last month she has been a nightmare. She would sleep through the night 7-7. 30 (she doesn't nap! Gave that up at 22 months!!) but now she'll wake atleast twice a night. I go in first and give her a cuddle before putting her back down, then if she starts again, daddy goes in and repeats. Usually she'll go off after this until the next waking.
She was pretty much potty trained in October and one day she just decided to give it up. She knows what to do, she's smart.... but it feels like she is too lazy to use the potty anymore as she just gets distracted and won't sit on it anymore. We gave it a break for six weeks as advised by the health visitor, but going back to it now, it's a struggle to even get her to sit on it and she runs off when we say 'Shall we go and do a wee and get a sticker?'
Her behaviour is getting worse too. I guess it's all part of the terrible twos, but she is so angry all the time it feels and even though I try and keep her mind active by taking her out, doing activities with her and as often as I can letting her see her toddler friends, she still gets angry. I don't expect her to be a Saint, but it's just so sad how much her behaviour has changed in the last few months.
She seems to be an angel for my mum when she goes there twice a week whilst I work, it's almost like it's just at home with me and hubby when she plays up. I know they can do no wrong in their grandparents eyes, but honestly... When she's round there with my mum, she's so chilled.
Food. She's literally given up using cutlery now when again, she was doing so well..
This pregnancy, I was so happy when I fell, but now I am terrified. I feel I've failed as a mother with my daughter and I don't know how I'm going to cope with another one particularly with how she seems to be now. I am under alot of stress at work, but I do try and hide that and try not to bring my problems home and show them infront of her.
I'm just feeling so low and lost. Everytime I try and tackle one problem with her, another one seems to arise and I just don't know what to do, what to tackle first or how I'm going to cope with two.
Sorry for ranting. I just needed that out my system. It probably sounds really petty.
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Lightning88 · 31/12/2017 20:12
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