Hi Mum's
I have a 4year old boy and we're having problems with his behaviour he won't do anything he doesn't want to..... I ask him to not mess around in shops and he'll make it his mission to do as he wants (touch things, climb under shelving, not do as he's told ect...) For example he wanted to go to the toilet yesterday and he wanted his dad to carry him and he was told no you can walk to the toilet so it ended in a 30 minutes melt-down of him crying at the top of the stairs screaming daddy even when we went up he still refused to wee unless his dad carried him to the toilet on put him on! His dad was not giving in! And putting his coat on he will roll on the floor and refuse to put his coat on after chasing and shouting I'll say fine don't put it on you'll freeze we'll go to walk out the door and he'll cry and say I want my coat on I want my coat on. We try and explain to him what he's done wrong and he'll make a stupid noise put his hand over his ears and say I don't want to listen..... This behaviour tends to happen when me and my husband are together or more family are around it's like attention thing! He's good as gold when it's just the 2 of us. It's a constant race of who's going to back down first.... We remove his toys we shout we've tried the naughty step we do not smack ! We've given him a warning "tap" .....it's affecting him at school now as he's so far forward in the construction part of learning because he likes it but as for the writing and identifying numbers and letters his teacher thinks he's lacking behind and probably won't reach the target as a hands on mum who's always used routine in everything since birth I'm heart broken and at the end of my tether its putting a strain on things we do it's causing arguments between me and my husband and I can't help but blame my self for giving him to much and letting people undermine my every step with parenting like parents and grandparents always telling me off for telling my son off in front off him I believe he's seen to much got away with to much and now I'm paying for it. Any tips and advice would be really appreciated mum's xx
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Roxy · 30/12/2017 08:59
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