Ds is 14mth old. I work part-time wed/thur/fri when he is in nursery. I clean for my nanna on a monday and she takes him to visit relatives all day. I spend all day tues, just me and him. DH and I spend all weekend with him. I normally do all the baths and put to beds. So, basically he spends much more time with me due to dh's work commitments.
Anyway, getting the point - over the past few weeks ds has started to not listen to anything I say to him - if I tell him not to do something he just smiles, nods his head and carries on, if we are walking anywhere and he doesn't want to go in that particular direction he sits down and throws his head back (quite literally, he has hurt himself many times by cracking it on the floor ), he rarely lets me feed him (although I do try to let him feed himself more often than not). Yesterday, we were in ASDA and he more or less screamed from the minute we got in until we got home, just because I wouldn't let him play with my handbag.
Whenever he starts with a total tantrum then I just completely ignore him - I literally turn the blinkers on and act normal and eventually he will stop (it's amazing how you really couldn't care less what other people think around you isn't it And, if he doesn't want to eat and throws another tantrum then I just ignore him again and wait until he has calmed down to hand over the food.
Now, I can appreciate that this is probably normal behaviour from a toddler and that he will eventually learn his limits/learn I'm not interested in his paddy fits but he is good as gold with DH/nanna/mum etc. Like today - he wouldn't eat for me but when I left the room he actually gave the spoon to my nanna to feed him and he ate the lot Or he can be in a really abd mood all day with me then DH will come home and he is all happy again.
Do you think he is like this with me because he spends most time with me so pushes it or do you think I am going wrong somewhere - would you just ignore temper tantrums or am I sort of giving him free rein to throw a hissy fit? When he first starts I give him 'the look' and tell him no firmly but he completely ignores me.
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Why does he just push it with me?
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Chloe55 · 23/04/2007 20:40
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