Going Potty over potty training

[822tinkerbell]

today is the 1st day 23.5 mths DD start potty training in nursery. She goes there full time mon-fri. Being a fulltime working mom i need the nursery to help coz 2 days (weekend) in a week is not sufficient imho (maybe i am wrong i don't know). We started training a few weeks back only on sat & sun and after she came home from nursery. she was doing fine, a few misses but managed to get to me in time for me to get her to the potty in time. We cheered and clapped hands when she wee in her potty and i was the happiest mom thinking i must have done the right thing ! but the last two days, i started to put pants on her and she missed every single time. i followed the rules and asked her every 15 mins, she always said no ! a couple of times by the time she ran to me, before we could push her pants down, she already let it go. A couple of times when she came to me saying she needs to wee, she took a long time sitting on her potty without doing one, then 30 seconds later after putting her pants back on, she wet herself. Then she would start crying as though she she has done something bad. i told her it's ok and we'll do better next time. i don't expect miracle today at the nursery but even i do get frustrated at times so i am praying the nursery ladies will be patience with her as well. I have been so stress over the weekend and right now i can't concentrate on work at the moment. I wanted to call the nursery but right now i just don't know what to do ? DH said i worried/stress over nothing but i really hope she will be trained soon. can you girls send me any link about potty training discussion here. there are so many threads and topic here i don't know where to go. i tried for the first 10 pages but can't find anything yet. Help would be so appreciated. Thanks so much.

[cleaninglady]

Completely understandable that you are stressed about it (is she your only child?) I wouldnt worry about the nursery side of things as I suspect she will come on in leaps and bounds - they do it day in day out so are completely used to it and how to handle it - i sort of wish both my lo's had gone to nursery to let them toilet train them rather than me No harm in ringing to see how she is getting on though as they expect parents to be anxious about developmental stages so would (and should) be fine with you ringing. I would say try not to show your dd your anxiety about it all though as she will pick up on it and it will make her anxious as well - good luck though - sounds like you made a great start and let nursery do the hard work for you

[cleaninglady]

oh and if it makes you feel better i am currently toilet training my 2 1/2 yo ds - he did really well all last week but has had two accidents this morning already but toilet training is never straightforward but just be consistent with the laid back comments when they do have accidents about oh well its an accident better luck next time - she probably got upset because she didnt like the sensation of feeling wet rather than being upset at having done something "wrong" - okay will stop going on now i promise......

[PetitFilou1]

tinkerbell you can't find a thread on here as there is a whole section on the talkboard on it! See nappies and potty training.........good luck!

[822tinkerbell]

oh you girls are great !! thank you so much ... i felt so much better now and yes i will give the nursery a call now ... DD is my first & with the stress i am going through ( also with her terrible two tantrums)she will most probably be my "only child" too. your messages makes me giggles cleaninglady !! thanks petitfilou, i will try looking for that site. thanks girls xxx

[cleaninglady]

hope you got on okay talking to nursery and that your dd did okay today as well!! dont even mention terrible two's to me at the moment - my angelic little boy has turned into the tazmanian devil and its horrendous! lucky for him my dd hadnt reached terrible two's before i got pregnant with him otherwise he wouldnt have been born if i had known what the terrible two's were like

[822tinkerbell]

hi girls ! don't expect you girls to come back here but here's her progress yesterday - she missed 5 times till 11am the girls only realised that when she did her little dance - that means she wants to wee. so after that she collected 3 stickers and 2 misses. i supposed it is not that bad even though she didn't do any poo. She wee twice again after her dinner but this time using her potty. we clapped and cheered and i was so proud then !!! let's hope she will do better today and do the big poo !!!
there's always other things to stress for a full time working mom !! this time, my cat has gone missing since yesterday morning.. sigh ... neverending ... but love mumsnet coz i know i can get really good advice and laughs over here !! take care and good luck to you girls too !!!xxx

[cleaninglady]

thought i would check in case you posted if its any consolation i had to pick up ds early from preschool (hes 2 1/2) because he had done a poo and they dont change them if they poo - i have told them next week (its only his 3rd time) that he is coming in underpants not pull ups as he is only using them for bed really!
a mid-morning phone call for me again then......

sounds like your dd is doing fab and the poo will come - that does tend to take longer though so dont worry to much! hope the cat turns up

[cleaninglady]

just a thought - are they using potty at nursery as well or toilet? if so might be worthwhile using toilet at home to keep consistency for her? my dd refused potty and would only go on "big girl" toilet like at nursery