3-4 year old girls-are they all like this?

[Mirage]

My previously angelically behaved dd1 (3.8) is driving me crackers.

She is normally a very well behaved child,but recently,has an answer for everything,argues with me,answers back & is quite defiant.From a child that never had a tantrum previously,it is quite an eye opener.When I tell her off,she says that she is sorry,& looks very crestfallen,but then goes on to do exactly the same thing a few minutes later.She just can't seem to stop herself

She is quite bossy towards dd2,who is nearly 2 & is very quick to tell her off,which upsets dd2 no end.

My mum says that 4 year olds are worse than 2 year olds behaviourwise,as they think they know it all.Another mother of a girl the same age at dd1's pre school,says that her dd is far worse than mine at answering back & it is a girl thing.

Any advice or experience of anything similar?I'm hoping it is just a phase & will pass before she starts school in September.
tHANKS

[pucca]

Oh dear, and here's me thinking it will get better

My dd is 3.3 YO and is exactly the same, so no advice i am afraid but i am going through it too so you are not alone!

[colditz]

Mirage

It's the age, I think, it's a hard age on the parent. they haven't just got autonomy, they have opinions too. 3.8 is when ds1 'cracked it' and suddenly got easier.

She will get to about 4 and become Very Keen on rules, I bet!

Colditz

[Boco]

I've got a 2 year old and a 4 year old, and i think the 2 year old is much easier. She's laid back and happy pretty much all the time.

DD1 is quite emotional, sensitive, bossy, demanding, - also really really good fun and funny and lovely to be around, but she does sometimes sound like a 15 year old, there's alot of high drama and wailing and flouncing and slamming doors. Lots of yelling 'you don't even LOVE me!' and 'you're so unfair to me x is so much luckier than me, i'm the unluckiest girl in the WORLD!' etc etc.

So is there a period between now and puberty where they don't say those things?