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6yr old gets scared at awkwardness on films/tv/books(4 Posts)
Hi all. Looking for some advice on my 6yr old who covers her eyes, shrieks and often tries to run away when awkward situations are on films, on tv or even at scenes in books. I'm not sure what to say really! It seems to be noticeable as she said to me in the car on the way home everyone stares at her when she gets "freaked out" at the films at after school club and she doesn't understand why they are all laughing when "it's scary".
She's always done this but I just thought she'd grow out of it...now i'm wondering if I should be doing something more pro-active? She's not scared of more "traditionally" scary things - happily watches Harry Potter for example without being bothered and loves Halloween.
Many thanks in advance.
What sort of awkward situations? You mean embarrasing ones? I feel those pretty strongly and one of my DD's will fast forward through them.
Is she ok socially?
She has one or two close friends, some of them from pre-school who she doesn't see so often. However she does spend time singing to herself in the playground in her own world if her special friends won't play with her for whatever reason ... she's not aggressive at all but there's a triangle friendship with an autistic child so it gets crowded quickly. Her teacher says she is kind and helpful. She is a little naive for some of the girls so tends to like playing with boys tbh.
I was like this as a child (and I'm still a bit like this at 38 tbh)
For me it was linked to a feeling that embarrassing myself in public was somehow catastrophic rather than just a bit awkward, if that makes sense?
Im not sure what would work but I imagine it might be helpful to chat about it. Your dd probably can't put into words why she finds it scary but you could perhaps try to put into words why you don't - why most people find it funny instead?
It's a bit hard without a specific example of a film but conveying ideas like "it's not the end of the world", "nobody actually gets hurt it just feels a bit uncomfortable", "other people aren't scared because they know it's just a misunderstanding that can be easily sorted out" "people are laughing because they recognise feeling a bit silly too - it happens to everyone" might be helpful. Might help her articulate her own fears or let go of them.
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