Dd has just turned 5 and started reception in September. She has always been a kind girl and quite emotionally intelligent. She is also stubborn and headstrong. Since starting reception her behaviour has deteriorated a lot. She is extremely defiant and is having tantrums at school (like screaming pen throwing tantrums). More recently she has slapped another child (school didnt know the circumstances) and has been screaming refusing to do stuff. This carries on at home and ive also seen her spit on the floor. Weve tried to make it clear to her its not acceptable and actions have consequences and doing the usual sticker charts etc. There hasnt been any real changes at home. just really dont know what to do to help. i am finding it difficult to get any good concrete information from the school about whats going on and its frustrating.
She could be emotionally and physically exhausted from starting school, she could be bored in school if she is more emotionally intelligent then her peers or more advanced then her class mates. Have you gone back to work since she's started school? Maybe you're more tired when she finally spends time with you and she wants more attention? What do you mean 'real changes' at home, has there been any changes at home that may be small to you but big to her?
Your the best person to answer this question: Why do you think she's had a sudden change in behaviour?
Agree with the others, she’s probably exhausted. I’d have lots of downtime at home, snuggling under a blanket watching a favourite film, teddy bear’s picnic, extra long baths and early nights. Hopefully, she will start improving soon.