My ds (6) was playing with his cousin (7) today. DS was being very irritating, swinging the same song over and over again. Dn asked him to stop. He didn't, so dn hit him. Hard. He cried a lot, and he's not a crying child. My brother saw it, told his son off, made him say sorry (which he did, sort of) then told my ds off for provoking him and not stopping when he was asked, and made my ds say sorry to dn for winding him up. The level of telling off was exactly the same. I am absolutely livid - I tried to challenge it at the time but I was overruled, and I didn't want to make an issue out of it in front of the children. I agree that ds was being annoying, but is it right that he should be made to accept responsibility for being hit? Surely hitting is ALWAYS the hitters fault - whatever the provocation? Or am I being precious and over protective?
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Can it be the hit child's fault, not the hitter?
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seeker · 17/04/2007 22:02
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