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Aggressive two year old... help!

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charliejr Thu 09-Nov-17 14:22:59

Hi, my son is almost 2 years old and for the past month of so he has started to become very aggressive. He slaps, scratches, kicks, pinches and pulls my hair. He also does this to himself, he scratches at his arms and eyes and smacks himself on the head. The outbursts are often totally without reason (that I can tell) and there is absolutely nothing I can do to stop him. I’ve tried ignoring it, fake crying, telling him off, removing him. Nothing works, he just carry’s on, except he does it harder. If I walk away, he follows me and continues doing what he was doing when I stop.

I’m starting to really struggle with this, I feel like I’ve completely lost control. Yesterday he started to be aggressive in a store and wouldn’t stop, people were looking and I burst into tears and we left. My husband and I believe he could be on the spectrum (there are more things in the background that make us think this) and other health professionals have said this too. He’s currently under a consultant being assessed but no one seems to be able to offer advice. I’ve rang my HV and she’s sending a behaviour specialist out in a few weeks, but I can’t wait that long. I just want to be able to stop my little boy from lashing out, he’s not a naughty child, I just wish I could understand why he does this and help him.

Any help would be massively appreciated. Thank you.

EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic Sat 11-Nov-17 11:43:38

charlie I didn’t want to read your post and leave you unanswered. That sounds so tough. If it was regular tantruming I’d be saying things like how is his speech and hearing and is he overtired, is he having too much sugar etc. As you’ve mentioned that you think he may be on the spectrum, have you thought of posting on the special needs board to see if anyone can offer and tips to help you deal with these meltdowns?

Mamabear4180 Sat 11-Nov-17 19:03:53

The outbursts may be related to overload OP. Try thinking back for triggers, is the environment noisy, is he being asked too many questions etc. There may be nothing you can do if he has ASD except fire fight. Just stay firm and say no etc, maybe offer any comforters etc. He may also be frustrated if he's struggling with communication.

EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic Sat 11-Nov-17 22:06:30

Agree with Mama this sounds like overload. I’d try using Makaton and getting him to wear sunglasses, a baseball cap and headphones if you are taking him out shopping.

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