i have 3 dc, and i'm really struggling with the youngest who is 6. she has epic tantrums which up until now i've calmly ignored but i'm actually getting worried because they seem to be getting worse. today's example:
dd2 has sn and needs quiet to do maths homework. she also needs help. dd3 sits at the desk with dd2 and is generally chattering and distracting her. i say 'please be quiet now, dd3, and read your book or do your spelling, because dd2 needs to do her maths'. so dd3 carries on singing. i explain that she'll have to go somewhere else if she wants to make a noise but she has to be quiet here. so she starts screaming at which point i pick her up and put her next door. she's kicking and biting me at this point. i just kept saying you must be quiet around dd2 so she can work calmly. nothing works. she just keeps screaming for another 30 minutes.
this could be any scenario. any time where she senses she has power and we need her to do something.
another example: all the dc's help with dinner. dd3 was asked to get forks. she refused and screamed at the top of her lungs every time someone said anything, so we couldn't eat our meal in peace, we couldn't talk. it was horrific. there isn't an opportunity to reason. my ears hurt afterwards it was so loud. i picked her up and put her outside the room (glass doors) but i don't like doing that. ignoring is what i usually do, but it doesn't seem to help.
i don't know what to do. i feel like she's trying to control the situation and keep the attention on her. dd2 REALLY needs a lot of attention and absolutely cannot fail her but i feel like i'm being pulled in 2! i can't cope anymore!
HELP PLEASE!!
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6yo tantrums - at my wits end
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eddielizzard · 05/10/2017 18:08
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