My ten year old DS inappropriate bottom touching with other boys

[JacksMum4]

I was quite shocked tonight when my neighbour told me that my son had now started initiating inappropriate behaviour which had been introduced by her nine year old recently. I was shocked when he told me that his friend had pulled down his pants which apparently happened regularly when he went to play at their house but that this time the other boy had stuck his finger in my ds bottom when ds was bending down to pull up trousers. My issue is that now my friend says my ds is now doing the same thing and they all (6, 7, 9 and my 10 year old) talk constantly about privates. She told me that my ds tried to stick a sock in her 9 year olds bare bottom. I then got very cross with my ds and told him this was naughty and inappropriate and that he mustn't do it again. I know I should not have spoken to him in anger and feel I will have damaged his self image and given him negative associations with body parts. My question is - is this behaviour normal? Should I tell the school? Am I over reacting? Is he being so silly because we have moved here recently and he doesn't usually have others children to play with being an only child? He is usually forced to be very sensible. Hanging out with older adult half siblings before we moved country... He has been through so much and now says he hates it here :(

[JacksMum4]

And by the way, what should I do? I am considering moving house. These guys are the only children my son gets to play with. He is not popular at his new school which is heart breaking. Only a few months ago I found out he had a diagnosis of mild aspergers. He had some lovely friends in England and now we haven't been able to get any play dates and he is getting more and more insecure. Help!

[JacksMum4]

Can anyone help me with this?

[heckEnquiry9000]

Hey there- this does sound like a concerning matter, but it's important to keep a cool head and not make any rash decisions. Although it may seem a little early for this type of behaviour, it's only natural for children to want to explore their bodies and the bodies of other children.

Personally, I'd suggest getting them another outlet to apply these thoughts to.

Perhaps a large teddy bear or other sort of toy could allow him to explore these areas without any adverse consequences.

My DS is currently working on a documentary outlining the dangers of engaging in such activities so early on - I'd be more than happy to send you a YouTube link to this once it's finished.