4 month old

[Mummy274]

Help: My 4 month old little boy has suddenly become really difficult.He won't nap during the day,doesn't want to be put down throws full on tantrums if a 4 month old can have tantrums.
Worst of all he now hates his buggy so we can't get out.I want to take him to so many places but getting there is a nightmare.
Please tell me this is normal for 4 month old & he'll suddenly do a you turn & become happy again.

[beccii161016]

It sounds like the 4 month sleep regression!
Basically, up to 4 months, babies go into a very deep sleep pretty much as soon as they close their eyes. When they get to 4 months though. They start to sleep more like adults. When they close their eyes they have to fall into a light sleep and then a deep sleep. Some babies aren't phased by this and take it in their stride but others are very affected by it. The less naps they have in the day, the more heir behaviour and night sleep will be affected because they'll be overtired.

The advice usually is to do whatever you have to do to get little one to sleep. White noise, dummies, swaddling or not swaddling, rocking etc. They have to learn to self soothe but generally can't do this well until 6 months which is why the advice is to just do whatever you need to do to get them to sleep until the point they are more able to self soothe.

Google the 4 month sleep regression. There's lots of information online :)

[Mummy274]

I'll google,thank you.

[furryelephant]

Agree with beccii!
Just want to add that my DD (now 6 months) went through a phase of hating the pram and the car and would scream all hell if she was in either from about 3-5 months roughly! I just didn't put her in the buggy for 2 weeks, then tried it, if she still hated it I left it another week or 2 and kept going like that! My baby carrier was a life saver! It also solved the not putting down and not napping issue which she also went through

[Mummy274]

Nice to know that he may like the buggy again at some point.I have a baby carrier & will just have to get to grips with that.
At the moment I feel so isolated & quite fed up 😌

[furryelephant]

Oh I know it's horrible isn't it, I used to cry that I'd be stuck inside forever! But we got there and I'm sure you will too if it was possible I tried to never leave her upset in the buggy so she didn't feel that it was bad to go in there and she'd be left crying, don't know if it helped or not but it's an idea once you get the hang of putting baby in and out the carrier will be a lifesaver! My DD still will always fall asleep in there eventually with no crying so hopefully your DS will be the same :)

[Mummy274]

At the moment I feel like I cry everyday,just really want to get out & take him everywhere.
Get so envious of other mums happily pushing their little one's around.I will get the carrier out today.Thank you,it's nice to hear from someone that's been there.

[beccii161016]

Furryelephant has given the best bit of advice when it comes to the carrier! We too had to invest in one and used it a lot for a month and a half! They're absolutely amazing and you can still get some stuff done with them too!

[Mummy274]

Carrier is out today 😁😁

[furryelephant]

I think my DD spent more time in it than out of it for a while I just used a stretchy wrap for a few months then bought a connecta which we still use when it seems easier than getting the pushchair around wherever we're going! You can almost see her face light up when I start putting it on she loves it so much

[Mummy274]

That's music to my ears.Wish me luck today 🤞

[furryelephant]

You havev got this if not there's always wine

[Mummy274]

😘

[Newtothis11]

How did you get on with your carrier? My DS is 4 months too and always has a snooze in his carrier (well after 10-15mins of looking around).

I was just reading your post and wondering about your pram. Have you changed from pram top to buggy position recently??

[Mummy274]

The carrier went down a treat.Also yesterday we changed the seat & today we've had two trips out & both were a success with a nap 👏🏻👏🏻
Going on a slightly longer walk into town tomorrow 😁

[Newtothis11]

That's brilliant!

[furryelephant]

Oh I'm so pleased for you! It's such a relief having a trip out with no screaming isn't it 😂

[Mummy274]

It's heavenly but still anxious.A few more trips & I'll relax.

[Newtothis11]

I know it's difficult but try to enjoy and soak it in.. these little people are constantly changing, I'm learning you think you have it Sussed then something else changes!