I have a 9 year old and a 5 year old. First one was very spoilt as he was the only child on both sides of the family. Then 2nd one arrived and all was fine until she was about 2.
My son kept teasing her, being rude to her, calling her names, pushing her over and now she does the same back.
All day everyday, they fight for my affection, they fight to be the 2st to walk through the door or the one who gets to use the key to open it or the 1st to have their teeth brushed. It is constant.
My son is jealous, I hardly tell my daughter off as she just doesn't give me enough reasons to, she listens to me. My son on the other hand would ignore and do the opposite to what I ask and it's a constant battle with him to get dressed, do homework, stay at table for dinner, get to bed, the lost goes on...
Please has anyone got any advice as I am getting to the point I don't feel like going home after work!
I think if you read aloud what you wrote you'll see what your problem is. The needs of a 9yo boy are vastly different from those of a 5yo girl but you are treating them the same. Of course your son was jealous of his baby sister, his life changed enormously for the worse when she came along. She may have enriched your life but from his point of view it ruined his. Be kind to him, give him a bit of responsibility that DD is too young for. Make time to do things with him that don't include his sister. When they bicker tell them both off, not just your son. He's not the fall guy.