DD being mean to me, lovely to Daddy

[ksmum]

Actually,that'sa bit of an exaggeration. She's not mean to me: will give me hug and a kiss if I ask for it but is always saying cuddle Daddy up, what's Daddy doing, want Daddy , see Daddy etc. And when he is there Ifeel like a gooseberry. It's really hard as I look after her most of the time, work 3 days whereas he works maybe 5 or 6, sometimes 7. I hardly ever miss her bedtime (once every month or something) whereas with him itwill be 2-3 times a week. I just feel like a slave who does everything for her while he gets all the rewards. Part of me thinks it isjust because I am around all the time, she takes me for granted but I have just gone back to work as well (in Jan) and hoped that might make abit of a difference. But it just seemed to make her cross with me. She seems also to blame me for his absence: the other night we were having dinner with my brother and she started going on about how she loved Daddy and he had no food. I think she thought if I made him some dinner he would come home. She's just 2 by the way. All the other posts I come across are the other way round i.e. Mummy is best and Daddy can get lost. I know I need to be a grown up about it but I am just feeling really down tonight. I met them in a cafe tonight after work and after about 30 seconds ofexcitement I may as well have not been there. And to be honest I think my husband felt the samei.e. Ifeel like a gooseberry. I felt so sad I left and walked home and am now hiding up here. I just feel like what's the point. I feel so silly writing this butI didn't think this is what being a MUmmy would feel like.

[chipkid]

it will all change-the next minute you will be all she wants! they are so funny at this age!
I know how upsetting it can be though my ds was just the same and now dd who is two is just starting this.
When dh is flavour of the moment I enjoy the freedom! it doesn't last long!

[LilyLoo]

Poor you it can be really hard when they do this. My dd same age is so fickle. It used to be all daddy now it's all mummy. She tends to stick with one preference for a bit then changes i think it's pretty mormal. I'm sure in time you will be the flavour of the month. My DS five seems to have grown out of this now and apprecites time with us both.

[amidaiwish]

my DD1 does this, won't kiss me goodnight if daddy has come home etc... just wants daddy to put her to bed, act like you don't care and enjoy the peace while he does the work!!

but seriously, you should tell DH how you are feeling. he needs to make sure that DD knows you are no.1 to him and that he won't tolerate her being rude to you (not saying she is, just making sure the balance is right).

[Uki]

My DS is the same it's all DA (Dad) at the moment. They go through different stages of attachment and at the moment it is a Dad one, He had a mum one too.

It does hurt a bit, but it is normal and part of their development. My ds would rather kiss his trains, cat and dog than me, he is a very independant toddler.

[twentypence]

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