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5yo behaviour changes

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kayla89 Thu 23-Mar-17 20:47:31

My lg has recently turned 5. As she has done so, her behaviour has changed, it's like having a 14yo. She is usually a quiet shy lg but just lately she is answering back, rude, she screams in her sisters face, hits her is her sister isn't doing as she likes. But recently it's spilling into school to, school have said she is being sly and devious. Today she was taken to the headmistress because her behaviour is so bad, she had stolen out of my handbag, and lied to the school on numerous occasions, doesn't listen. I have a reward chart in place that makes no affect, if she does something wrong she will say 'fine I will sit on the step' as she knows she has done wrong. I have taken her toys out off her bedroom. She wasn't allowed sweets tonight as she had been naughty and went into a complete meltdown, screaming the house down 'as this wasn't fair' pushing her sister because her sister could have sweets as a reward for being good.
I am a single working mum with 2 girls ages 4&5. I am finding it really hard, it's like they are tag teaming me. Is anyone in the same position or have ideas on what else may help?

TittyGolightly Thu 23-Mar-17 20:49:45

What does she get when she's good?

kayla89 Thu 23-Mar-17 20:53:31

She gets treats, or time on the iPad, stories, something that she wants to do. I giver her lots off praise when she is good and tell her that she makes me proud.

Mynd Thu 23-Mar-17 23:15:12

My DD (5) was a total dream til she hit 5, then my god she turned into a moody, stubborn diva. She'll be 6 in May and things have improved dramatically. I think it was triggered by school and feelings of independence, combined with a need for her mother as well. Just messed her up for a while. At the time it felt interminable but it's now over with and I've got my lovely DD back (for now!).

I generally managed her by being firm but very huggy as well. Gave her a lot of reassurance and cuddles, but came down like a ton of bricks on rude behaviour. Was a tough few months though :-(

TittyGolightly Fri 24-Mar-17 06:55:57

6 is when they start pulling away but still want you close. They can be stroppy, but it's (usually) down to development rather than naughtiness. I wouldn't personally use punishment - I'd maximise the time spent with her and minimise iPad time.

kayla89 Fri 24-Mar-17 20:28:42

Thank you so much, that does make me feel a little better. These last few weeks have been hard. Today she has been brilliant, it was a little rocky this morning but I was firm and stood my ground with both my girls. She is very clingy at the moment usually when granny comes she is all for granny but today she wouldn't leave my side. The same at school she clings to my leg when I have to leave. I have another 11 months to go until she reaches 6, guess I will have to grin and bear it and stick to my word. Thank you again x

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