4 year old completely ignores me

[lyssie29]

Please can I get some suggestions on how to deal with a very stubborn and independent 4 year old (well she's still 3, 4 on Monday) she only really does it mostly outside. Usually if we see someone we know or some dogs she wants to play with she gets excited and will literally either completely ignore me when I tell her not to do something or come away as we're leaving or she'll say no. I've tried telling her off, talking to her reasonably about her behaviour, cancelled plans ive had to take to softball play etc, stopped treats. She says every time these things happen that she's sorry and she'll be good. That she'll listen next time. But then she does exactly the same the next time. I don't know what what to do anymore.

[Wishiwasmoiradingle2017]

Toddler wrist strap. .

[thethoughtfox]

I don't think they can help themselves. There's a good book called Toddlercalm and explains their wee brains and why they do the things they do. But the upshot is that their brains aren't fully developed yet. You just have to keep reminding them.

[thethoughtfox]

I wouldn't punish her, though as it's not really a discipline issue. She can't help it!

[lyssie29]

She's completely ignoring me though is that not to be disciplined? She's at nursery now and if a teacher tells her to do somethin she does it. Her behaviour is very good but with me she either totally ignores me or says flat out no. She gets really hyper and sometimes is hurting ppl because she's right in their face. I literally have to drag her off them with her screaming at me and drag her away to get her off them.