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What a horrible 2 days 8-(..dd has switched personalities 8-(

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 04/03/2007 19:38

my dd (4 in april) has the last two days, demanded, shouted, cried if she doesnt get her own way, cried if she doesnt like something/wanted something, ignored me even when i say something for safety reasons, told me she doesnt like me then cried when i asked her why, laughed at me after i took her food away at dinner time because shed used up her third chance(new thing, she eats v.badly so if she messes around and i have to tell her thee times, i take it away), i told her to go and sit in living room on her own while we finished our meal, she shouted "how long do i have to si here for", i said until we're finished"..she said "right then, i will" in a cocky manner, kept telling her dad i wouldnt play with her in playroom, when all she did was walk in and out and even still when i was down on floor with her doing a puzzle.
we took her to park AND to seaside yesterday, then toy shop today to pick out what she would like for her birthday in april and she talked to me like crap all weekend, then when her dad told her off for running toward road, she couldnt apologise enough and asking if he forgave her..just absolutely fed up

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nikkie · 04/03/2007 19:43

My dd2 is like this atm, has been going on for weeks, no suggestions though sorry

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 04/03/2007 19:45

is he same age?
have you noticed anything that may trigger it?

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nikkie · 04/03/2007 19:54

she is 5 ,started just before she got ill but has carried on.Maybe your dd is catching something?

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 05/03/2007 14:53

hmm, dont know, she seems fine health wise(touchwood), i just dont 'get' how she can be so polite and 'good' one minute then this cheeky, nasty little madam the next

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sunnysideup · 05/03/2007 15:28

I think it's a boundary testing thing at this age.

With the talking to you rudely, I would give her choices - "I don't like you talking to me so rudely; talk to me nicely please like I do to you".

If repeated you can give her the choice of speaking nicely, or going to another room on her own.

And then if repeated again you can follow through on it....

I think it's a case of telling them clearly what you want, enabling them to make the choice that you want them to, but giving a consequence if they don't.

I'm very liberal when it comes to kids, I hate the thought of 'training' kids to behave and whacking them in time out every day; I used time out with ds probably less than five times so far, and he's five this year.

But I do think there have to be clear consequences to children if they are being totally rude and horrible; where does it end, otherwise....but important to give the chance for them to choose to change their behaviour before you leap to consequences imo.

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 05/03/2007 16:13

thanks..i know she is far better behaved than other children and im just so , because she is usually so good, so i am lucky in some ways.
ive spoken to her today (just in convo)and asked her why she was cheeky at weekend and she said she didnt know and was sorry.
Shes asked for snacks and said shes hungry all day today and i havent given in, shes just said it again and i asked her why she wasnt allowed anything between meal..and she said because shes naughty..ive explained that its mainly because she wont eat her meals but that the way she bahaved at weekend 'was' naughty..shes actually ate today...> a pasty..went on school trip, got into town, about to go to town library then home for lunch but dd said " can i have a pasty"!!..shes never eaten one in her life???..but i thought ok, new food and all that..she picked a cheese and onion on and ate the lot!..so i have told her she can have pie for dinner with mash and veggys as pie is like pasties!!!!!!..we'll see!

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nikkie · 05/03/2007 19:25

Thats better news SS

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StrawberrySnowflakes · 05/03/2007 19:50

she ate ALL her dinner and has been lovey tonight..fingers crossed..i personally think it may be a weekend thing when me and her dad are around adn she plays us off against eachother!

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